StepMom Adoption..

[MySonsMom]

I'm sorry to anounce that 1 week before the adoption was to be final the biological mother has changed her mind. For all who have followed my story. {sigh}

and I presume she was able to do this.. what is her reason ?... Did she sign anything at all ?...

Sorry to hear

[MySonsMom]

Yes she signed all of the papers..everything was done. We were just waiting for our court date which was next week. She retained an attorney to stop the process. She now (after 7 yrs) has asked to help her become a better mother and to give her another chance. Wait a minute while I puke.

From one step-mom to another I know how you feel, and I'm sorry that things didnt work out for you, but I do hope that things will change for the benefit of the child.

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partyofsix26

I presume that regardless of the fact papers were SIGNED, that because there was no court appearence that there is still nothing you can do ??..

So I guess you now that to wait to see what she wants to do next ?

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Dear MySonsMom:

I know how much you wanted this. I am sorry this happened and for your pain. My sincere condolences to you and your husband.

IAAL



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[MySonsMom]

Thanks guys...Next to my Father passing away I think this is the most devistating news I've received. After 7 yrs of her being an awful and neglectful mother, she now wants a second chance. (not to mention she has 2 other small children that she lost custody of) I'm not sure I beleive it but there's always that chance. So after raising my step son for 7 yrs and sacrificing ALOT since I was 19 yrs old for him and my husband, I am stepping back from the role in which I played best in my life. {sigh}

Why step back... your goal should be to work even harder to ensure the childs best interests are protected. Get the bio mom to fight her way back to prove she really wants this to work.. start by allowing her very little and only giving her more as she proves herself.

We are in a simular situation.. father neglected daughter for 5 years, comes back demanding and threatening.. it is a major uphill struggle as we have to protect her rights and her best interests.. something he claims to have in mind but never backs up with action...

I would say that now is the time to be more of a mother to the child than you have ever been..

[MySonsMom]

My situation is pretty complicated...But for my own sake I do need to step aside. Unfortunately.

I am so sorry things didn't work out. I really was hoping that it would. Our situation didn't work out like we wanted either. I don't understand with such vital proof that we bring to these matters, it slides the other way. You really worked hard for this too. I keep reminding myself that life is not fair and try and find something good in all this bad. I never would have found great friends like my "board" family. We learn together, grieve together, and trust IAAL to lead us in the right direction. I still miss Papa Smurf. We will hope along with you that things will change and with God's Providence, these children that we fight for so diligently, will grow up with strong sense of family and obligation that we have. Bless you. We all grieve with you.

[MySonsMom]

Thanks Always Searching...Glad to see you back. Email me, I'd love to hear what is going on. Bless you all!

One thing I have always noticed is that the courts sometimes puts people rights above the best interests of the child. I sometimes wonder what is supposed to come first. A persons rights, or the childs best interest and welfare...

Oh um..

[MySonsMom]

I hear you there usdeeper. I just don't understand how "biology" can have such presidence over what is best for a child. I could go on and on..