Think of divorce.

I am a 40 year old man who has been married 19 years. I have two children 15 and 13. We live in a very nice home of $175,000. If I go through with my plan of divorce, which she has no clue of at this time, will My wife get our house? How much will I have to pay in the State of Ohio with an income of 24,ooo, and another 10,000 in overtime money.
Her income is $38,000. Will it be cheaper for me to continue living the unhappy life until my children are of age. I really would appreciate some experienced advice, as I am an emotional wreck.

Well I say if you are that miserable in your marriage then it is probably a good idea to end it . Although i do recommend counseling . Are you willing to throw away a 19 yr . marriage? It will change you , her and your children for life sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse . She will probably get the house and cs and she can even get alimony from you as well . I really do not know to much about the laws in Ohio but where I am from for 2 kids it is around 27% of your gross income. I really would think long and hard about this decision 19yrs. is a long time to be with someone and then give it all away . Make sure you are making a rational decision because this dicision not only effects you but it effects the whole family . You need to talk to her do not spring it on her suddenly are you going to get a reaction from her that you do not want . So be a mature man and go talk to your wife . She may or maynot be feeling the same way but it appears to me that you all have lack of communication. Try talking you will be amazed on what it can accomplish. Good Luck!

My "PERSONAL OPINION"....you should STAY WITH THE KIDS! Your concern right know should be them, Not the cost of devorce now or later.I know it sounds easy to say from here...but..youve already done 19 yrs 5 more is a cheap price to pay for the emotional stabillity of your children...13 thru 18 are the years they need you the most! If you teach them to be emotionaly stable..by the time they are 18 they will handle mom and dad splitting up! If your good, they will be expecting it and understand it!
When my wife left our devorce was a friendly one (mostly) and my 12 yr old daughter still ended up in therapy for a few years...
I let my wife leave ... even helped her..because I didn't want my kids to think that our lifestyle was the typical marriage and never want to be married!
If I were you I'd stay.....besides devorce is very expensive..and child support SUCKS for a million different reasons. good luck

In the state of Oh, it varies by county and that domestic relations judge, but in all likelihood the wife would get possesion of the home until both children are emancipated and gone. Your divorce decree would probably stipulate that at that time either party buys out the other parties share in the home or the house is to be sold if you can not both agree on who gets ownership. Also in Ohio your child support is based on both incomes and is based on that(pretending that you are still together and what the annual income in the home would be) then a percentage is given for your share of the child support- seeings how your wife earns more $ than u annually her % will be higher.
If there is an outstanding balance on your $175,000 home and ure mortgage payment is high you also take the risk of the court ordering u to pay part of the mortgage payment as part of your child support. If u are that miserable I suggest u contact an attorney near u and find out these specifics for sure as if there is aminosity in the home u are not doing your children any favors by sticking around because at their ages they see this and it doesn't make for a
healthy environment and as long as u keep a
relationship with kids after the fact they will learn to adjust.