Visitation Rights

My ex- husband is trying to find me in contempt of court becuase I will not switch the weekends that he sees our son. He switches back and forth and so some time
there was not a set schdule. We had a long court battle this summer and i was found in contemot for three days . I have written down a schedule and have tried very hard to adhere to by making plans for only my weekends and making sure that our son is waiting for him every other weekend and every other Thursday. The problem is that the weekends that were given to my ex are the weekends opposite of his grilfriends and her children. He refuses to pick our son up because he wants to spend time with his girlfriend alone and have our son on the weekend that she has her children. If I do that, I will be giving up three day weekends that our son has from school and certain holiday weekends. We live in the state of Ohio and all it says in the court papers is that he is allowed to have time with our son. Do I have to switch the weekends or will get in trouble with the court again if I don't. This is a battle every weekend that it is time for him to see our son. He tells our son that he wants to be with his girlfiend. His visitation is only from
9:00am to 7:30 pm on Sat. and Sun. What do you suggest. Please help, any adivce is useful.

The simple fact is, whether or not he even pays child support, which is an obligation, visitation is a right.
If you get found in contempt too many times, the judge may give him custody and you child support.
Perhaps you could take the children to his house at predesignated times.

[LegalBeagle]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by themansfields [/i]
[B]My ex- husband is trying to find me in contempt of court becuase I will not switch the weekends that he sees our son. He switches back and forth and so some time
there was not a set schdule. We had a long court battle this summer and i was found in contemot for three days . I have written down a schedule and have tried very hard to adhere to by making plans for only my weekends and making sure that our son is waiting for him every other weekend and every other Thursday. The problem is that the weekends that were given to my ex are the weekends opposite of his grilfriends and her children. He refuses to pick our son up because he wants to spend time with his girlfriend alone and have our son on the weekend that she has her children. If I do that, I will be giving up three day weekends that our son has from school and certain holiday weekends. We live in the state of Ohio and all it says in the court papers is that he is allowed to have time with our son. Do I have to switch the weekends or will get in trouble with the court again if I don't. This is a battle every weekend that it is time for him to see our son. He tells our son that he wants to be with his girlfiend. His visitation is only from
9:00am to 7:30 pm on Sat. and Sun. What do you suggest. Please help, any adivce is useful. [/B][/QUOTE]

Unless a court has ordered you to specific weekends then you can not be found in contempt. Also, if you have good reasons why you can not swop then you will be heard and have weight to the case..

However, although there would not be a contempt charge, a judge may order the swop to accomadate his situation. If he has not been dating her long or have had a few girlfriends this year then that is a good defence.

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by themansfields [/i]
[B]My ex- husband is trying to find me in contempt of court becuase I will not switch the weekends that he sees our son. He switches back and forth and so some time
there was not a set schdule. We had a long court battle this summer and i was found in contemot for three days . I have written down a schedule and have tried very hard to adhere to by making plans for only my weekends and making sure that our son is waiting for him every other weekend and every other Thursday. The problem is that the weekends that were given to my ex are the weekends opposite of his grilfriends and her children. He refuses to pick our son up because he wants to spend time with his girlfriend alone and have our son on the weekend that she has her children. If I do that, I will be giving up three day weekends that our son has from school and certain holiday weekends. We live in the state of Ohio and all it says in the court papers is that he is allowed to have time with our son. Do I have to switch the weekends or will get in trouble with the court again if I don't. This is a battle every weekend that it is time for him to see our son. He tells our son that he wants to be with his girlfiend. His visitation is only from
9:00am to 7:30 pm on Sat. and Sun. What do you suggest. Please help, any adivce is useful. [/B][/QUOTE]

Does the court order specify in wording such as NCP(possessory) conservator shall have access to the children from 6pm on friday thru sunday at 6pm on the 1st, 3rd & 5th friday of each month?

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by LadyBlu [/i]
[B][QUOTE][i]Originally posted by themansfields [/i]
[B]My ex- husband is trying to find me in contempt of court becuase I will not switch the weekends that he sees our son. He switches back and forth and so some time
there was not a set schdule. We had a long court battle this summer and i was found in contemot for three days . I have written down a schedule and have tried very hard to adhere to by making plans for only my weekends and making sure that our son is waiting for him every other weekend and every other Thursday. The problem is that the weekends that were given to my ex are the weekends opposite of his grilfriends and her children. He refuses to pick our son up because he wants to spend time with his girlfriend alone and have our son on the weekend that she has her children. If I do that, I will be giving up three day weekends that our son has from school and certain holiday weekends. We live in the state of Ohio and all it says in the court papers is that he is allowed to have time with our son. Do I have to switch the weekends or will get in trouble with the court again if I don't. This is a battle every weekend that it is time for him to see our son. He tells our son that he wants to be with his girlfiend. His visitation is only from
9:00am to 7:30 pm on Sat. and Sun. What do you suggest. Please help, any adivce is useful. [/B][/QUOTE]

Does the court order specify in wording such as NCP(possessory) conservator shall have access to the children from 6pm on friday thru sunday at 6pm on the 1st, 3rd & 5th friday of each month? [/B][/QUOTE]

There is nothing like that, only that he gets to see his son every other weekend. He is not allowed to drink in front of him and no overnight stays unless it is a vacation. Other wise, we agreed to the weekends and then he realized the conflict with his girlfreind and then there was a problem.

[LegalBeagle]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by themansfields [/i]
[B][QUOTE][i]Originally posted by LadyBlu [/i]
[B][QUOTE][i]Originally posted by themansfields [/i]
[B]My ex- husband is trying to find me in contempt of court becuase I will not switch the weekends that he sees our son. He switches back and forth and so some time
there was not a set schdule. We had a long court battle this summer and i was found in contemot for three days . I have written down a schedule and have tried very hard to adhere to by making plans for only my weekends and making sure that our son is waiting for him every other weekend and every other Thursday. The problem is that the weekends that were given to my ex are the weekends opposite of his grilfriends and her children. He refuses to pick our son up because he wants to spend time with his girlfriend alone and have our son on the weekend that she has her children. If I do that, I will be giving up three day weekends that our son has from school and certain holiday weekends. We live in the state of Ohio and all it says in the court papers is that he is allowed to have time with our son. Do I have to switch the weekends or will get in trouble with the court again if I don't. This is a battle every weekend that it is time for him to see our son. He tells our son that he wants to be with his girlfiend. His visitation is only from
9:00am to 7:30 pm on Sat. and Sun. What do you suggest. Please help, any adivce is useful. [/B][/QUOTE]

Does the court order specify in wording such as NCP(possessory) conservator shall have access to the children from 6pm on friday thru sunday at 6pm on the 1st, 3rd & 5th friday of each month? [/B][/QUOTE]

There is nothing like that, only that he gets to see his son every other weekend. He is not allowed to drink in front of him and no overnight stays unless it is a vacation. Other wise, we agreed to the weekends and then he realized the conflict with his girlfreind and then there was a problem. [/B][/QUOTE]

In what why did he agree to the weekends ?

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by LegalBeagle [/i]
[B][QUOTE][i]Originally posted by themansfields [/i]
[B][QUOTE][i]Originally posted by LadyBlu [/i]
[B][QUOTE][i]Originally posted by themansfields [/i]
[B]My ex- husband is trying to find me in contempt of court becuase I will not switch the weekends that he sees our son. He switches back and forth and so some time
there was not a set schdule. We had a long court battle this summer and i was found in contemot for three days . I have written down a schedule and have tried very hard to adhere to by making plans for only my weekends and making sure that our son is waiting for him every other weekend and every other Thursday. The problem is that the weekends that were given to my ex are the weekends opposite of his grilfriends and her children. He refuses to pick our son up because he wants to spend time with his girlfriend alone and have our son on the weekend that she has her children. If I do that, I will be giving up three day weekends that our son has from school and certain holiday weekends. We live in the state of Ohio and all it says in the court papers is that he is allowed to have time with our son. Do I have to switch the weekends or will get in trouble with the court again if I don't. This is a battle every weekend that it is time for him to see our son. He tells our son that he wants to be with his girlfiend. His visitation is only from
9:00am to 7:30 pm on Sat. and Sun. What do you suggest. Please help, any adivce is useful. [/B][/QUOTE]

Does the court order specify in wording such as NCP(possessory) conservator shall have access to the children from 6pm on friday thru sunday at 6pm on the 1st, 3rd & 5th friday of each month? [/B][/QUOTE]

There is nothing like that, only that he gets to see his son every other weekend. He is not allowed to drink in front of him and no overnight stays unless it is a vacation. Other wise, we agreed to the weekends and then he realized the conflict with his girlfreind and then there was a problem. [/B][/QUOTE]

In what why did he agree to the weekends ? [/B][/QUOTE]

It was a verbal agreement on the phone. I just read it again, it just states that the non residental parent is be given alternative weekends and alternative Thursdays for visitation. It does not even state that we agree on them only that they are given. If he does not show then he forfiets his time. I just the emotional abuse that is suffering to stop. His father has continously puts his girlfriend in front of his son, and this is a prime example of that.

Why did you not ask the court to clarify the order for every other weekend when you were held in contempt? In order for it to work with someone that wants to keep changing things you need to have the court specify even or odd weekends... that is the only way you will be able to have any legal standing.

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by LadyBlu [/i]
[B]Why did you not ask the court to clarify the order for every other weekend when you were held in contempt? In order for it to work with someone that wants to keep changing things you need to have the court specify even or odd weekends... that is the only way you will be able to have any legal standing. [/B][/QUOTE]

We were sent the orders in the mail and my lawyer told me to just the dates, make an agreement and move on. I agree with what you are saying, but it was not done. I just want to keep out of court right now. I do not feel that I am doing anything wrong and I have not refused him visitation rights on his designated times. I think he is trying to be controlling and pull a power play on me because our son told the magistrate somethings that his father did not like. I just do not understand why he won't pick his son up and forget this and move on. Our son does not want me to change the weekends because then is with her children and does get to spend one on one time with his father. These children are alwys with them and our son feels out of place. These children are mean to him and the girlfriend says things about me and my family in front of our son and he hates it. Our son just wants to be with his father and spend the little time that have together doing things alone. He has spoken to his father about this many times and his father refuses to listens and then gets mad at our son for telling how he feels. This is a big mess and I want it to stop.

Have you ever thought about mediation?

V, good response. Mediation can come in handy at times, if you are dealing with rational adults. It didn't work for us, Mom just wanted control of my husband, the kids, and myself. But it does work for others.