visitation vs. support

recently my wife told her ex that if he didn't pay his support that she would withhold visitation, even though it is wrong she thought that would get him to pay but it hasn't. We are going to court but haven't gotten a date yet in 8yrs he has only paid 6,000.00 and been in contempt 4 times. The judge always lets him off the hook because she says he can't pay in jail if he isn't paying anyway what is the difference. I'm going to try to get her to go after property since nothing else is working is this a good idea or what should we do?

[MySonsMom]

I do know that child support and visitation are separate...VERY separate. It's a touchy combination, and words concerning the two should be used wisely...imo. Even tho your wife would like to, she cannot withhold visitation because he isn't paying child support. He is in contempt since he doesn't pay, the courts will deal with him..If your wife withholds visitation she will be held in contempt, right along with him. Two wrongs don't make a right. Going after him for child support legally is the right thing to do...Good luck!

[MySonsMom]

By the way, I know it's very difficult dealing with parents that just don't want to stand up and support their children. They want all the "fun" of being a parent, but none of the responsibility. It's very hard to deal with, and I'm sorry that you guys have to go through that. I wish you both the best of luck in getting the money and support that you obviously deserve.