To wait or not to wait....?

I have posted before, you may remember me. I have a five year old daughter, my husband and I divorced in '97, he gave me primary custody. I was admitted for a week to a stress center in Jan. '99 for a suicide attempt (not fatal) (upset because he remarried...stupid I know now!) He wanted to take custody of her. I declined...he said he would take custody anyway. I ask him not to. I agreed to let him take primary custody for two years, under my circumstances I was really afraid he could get her forever. He agreed on two years and drew up paperwork. He has primary custody pending a two year review, according to the paperwork. I pay no child support because as a part of getting my life back together I went back to school full time, not working. He ask the court to wave the child support. I see her as often as I can. She lives two hours away. I see her every other weekend, sometimes every, and sometimes she stays for a week, I call her everyday to every other day and I mail her stuff. I am remarried now myself and we have a two month old son. My life is much more stable and secure. I worry that he won't let her come back in two years, though he has been being great about letting me see her etc. I'm praying he keeps his word, but I worry he won't. He didn't down me in the paperwork and he knows my daughter would rather be with me. I don't want to wait two years and then him say "no I'm keeping her". It hurts alot not having her here. I love her so much. I haven't even been able to ask him if he is still letting her come back if everything is well with me. I'm too scared of what he'll say, though I know I am trying my very best for her sake. Should I talk to him? Should I wait so he knows I'm okay when the time comes? Or should I seek legal advice now? I have accepted his marriage and moved on now with my own life and all is well. I'm a good parent I don't drink, party, or ignore my children. I'm very dedicated to them. He throws money issues at me...like he can provide more. But at the rate my husband and I are going he won't be able to use that excuse for long. We are doing well for ourselves, and I get to be a stay at home mom for my kids. He and his wife work full time and have little time for their kids. She will start school this year. If you advice that I ask him about all of this, should I ask before school starts? I could be there for her right now alot more than he. I feel that is most important. Any advice would be appreciated.

Hi Anita-It's great to read that your daughter has two loving parents that appear to get along well enough to make her feel secure in both environments. There's really no "crystal ball" to predict what's going to happen. Your worry is not adding a minute to your life, and may be felt by your baby. Don't let the worry put you in a state where you may "crash" again. Your baby will be as anxious as you seem to be, please don't dwell on it, or discuss it constantly while she is with you. Is there a reason why you don't see her coming back? Prayers for you.