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betrayedone
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Hello, this is my first time ever to this site and board and I hope I do this right. I'm in a marriage of 2.5 years and I deeply love my husband, more than ANYthing on this earth and our relationship had been beautiful until August 4h, 2000 when I caught him in a lie and confronted him....he refused to talk to me about it and still does. Things have changed between us though I still love him with all my heart, he isn't as sweet and loving, though he's nice to me mostly, just gets nasty and hateful from time to time and refuses to talk ONE bit about the lie I caught him in. When talking with close friends, they advise me to leave him, he doesn't deserve me. That's easier said than done because a) I have NOT worked since I moved from my hometown and married him (that's been 3 years) and b) I have NO money to even get an attorney to ask the questions I NEED answered before I seek a divorce, if it comes to that. My question is this....WHAT am I entitled to, IF we go the way of divorce, even though I've not worked and the house we are in was built before we met (though BOTH of our names are now on the mortgage). He also has a hefty sum in a 401 (k) that he has always refered to as OUR money and he makes good money. IF I were to divorce him tomorrow, I'd be penniless and homeless, but IF this bad treatment of me BY HIM continues I guess I have no choice. However, I wanted to know if ANYbody knew what I'd be fairly entitled to if it came to divorce? COULD he be forced to put the house up for sale and split that proceed with me, COULD he be forced to give me part or half of the 401(k) money and COULD he be forced to pay ME some kind of monthly support since I have not worked since marrying him? I'd so much appreciate ANY advise anyone could give, I'm at my wits end and I spend my days and nights crying...he was my dream man, the only one I've ever loved and I've done everything for him and our home for the past 2.5 years and now my world is crumbling...my friends say if he can't appreciate me and treat me right, then I should hit HIM where it hurts, in his wallet. Please advise, anybody! Blessings!