My DH and his ex were married for 16 years, the last 10 of which, they were seperated. 1/98 He filed for divorce in order to have definite, spelled out visitation with with their 2 sons that were not subject to the whims of the mother. I met him 2/98 .It took 1 1/2 years to work out an agreement they could both sign. The hold up being the visitation schedule. (pretty standard stuff....e/o weekend, e/o wednesday for dinner, alternating holidays...) She told him she could have stretched it out longer if she chose to, once before she signed it and once just after we married. The divorce was final 8/99. We married 9/99. The boys, 12 and 15, do not see their dad. He filed contempt charges 10/99. Her defense is that it isn't her fault, the kids don't want to go because they want to do things w/ their friends, what is she gonna do, tie them up and make them go??? The court, 1/00 ordered counseling sessions. The counselor feels it should be the kids decision. She requested the kids have their own lawyer. 8/00 court agreed. This lawyer is to decide if the counselor can have priviliges waived and testify as to the "issues" the boys have with their father. Court date for the contempt hearing is 9/00.
side note: DH calls frequently to talk with his children. Her machine is ALWAYS on and the calls are not returned. He has seen them 11 days since the divorce. The visits go well, hugs and kisses, happy kids.
Sorry this is so long. My question is: can anyone tell us what to expect next, or offer any words of encouragement? My DH is so discouraged, his desire to father is greater than his sons' desire to be fathered it seems.
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08-07-2000, 11:02 AM
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