When is enough enough?

I'll try to keep this short. I was married to my first wife for 13 years and divorced 13 years ago. In the divorce judgement, finalized after 3 years of litigation, she received child support and spousal support. Our daughter is now 23 and on her own. I put her through college. She was 11 when we separated. My ex was 36 when we separated with a teaching credential and a special ed masters (also paid by me). Still, she didn't try to get a job until the court essentially forced her to when it said that a salary would be imputed into the spousal support calculation. She is in special ed now for 6 years, making $50,000 or so. I make about $90,000 in my own consulting business. The decree indicated I pay support until further order of the court. I remarried last year and my wife's 2 kids live with us. I want to end support. What do you think? Do I need any "material change" to have occurred other than what I've described? Thanks for your thoughts.

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Enough!

What the feminists are calling child support, certainly becomes "Tax-free Alimony" especially when the 'child' has reached 23 years of age, is out of college, and the check is still going to the ex-. Getting the order changed should be a priority, no? I cannot find the fairness or integrity in your ex- in not just returning
the money, or putting a stop to payments herself.

Now I've heard it all! That woman is still getting support and the daughter is 23? But, you know, my husband's ex will take the money as long as she can. My step-daughter could be 17 and married and ex will still tell us she lives with her. We'll probably have to hire a private investigator. Good golly, man, go to a lawyer and tell him you want all the child support back that you shouldn't have paid and make sure SHE pays the legal fees involved! HURRY!

Thanks for the quick posts to my original topic. I just wanted to clarify that child support ended when my daughter turned 18, no problem there. But I am still paying spousal support to my ex. This support is tax-deductible to me. The court determined that our "marital standard"(of income) was not reached with the support award (neither was my "standard" by the way!). I continue to send her a check each month, even though her new career is well established and I started a new business 3 years after our divorce. Some have told me I'm nuts to still be paying, but you never know what the court will say if I have to litigate again (ugh). I'd be interested in any and all comments, especially from lawyers in CA. on whether my chances are good to get the court to terminate alimony. Thanks again.

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Enough!

I WOULD THINK YOU NEED TO GET A LAWYER, FILE A MOTION TO STOP PAYMENT. YOU DID YOUR PART...BUT SHE'LL KEEP TAKING AS LONG AS YOU KEEP GIVING. (I DOUBT THAT SUPPORT MONEY GOES TO YOUR KID)

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by petari [/i]
[B]Thanks for the quick posts to my original topic. I just wanted to clarify that child support ended when my daughter turned 18, no problem there. But I am still paying spousal support to my ex. This support is tax-deductible to me. The court determined that our "marital standard"(of income) was not reached with the support award (neither was my "standard" by the way!). I continue to send her a check each month, even though her new career is well established and I started a new business 3 years after our divorce. Some have told me I'm nuts to still be paying, but you never know what the court will say if I have to litigate again (ugh). I'd be interested in any and all comments, especially from lawyers in CA. on whether my chances are good to get the court to terminate alimony. Thanks again.

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Retain an attorney and file to modify/cancel the order. The worse that can happen is that it is doubled.

Only kidding!