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Old 05-09-2000, 12:19 PM
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I am currently pregnant with my ex's baby. I live in the state of Pa. He ended up moving without giving me a change of address a month and a half after we broke up. He has been living at this address since to my knowledge, mid Febuary. He hasent even informed me that he has moved. It is my understanding that he might possiblyonly be able to get supervised visitation because of being a flight risk because of his moving without notifying me. He gave me no indication he moved, and no phone number to contact him with incase of emergencys. And there have been minor emergencys that have arisen in the pregnancy. He doesnt even know that I know that he has moved. I have ways of getting his address and phone number. I have spoken with him 2x in the last 4 months. He hasnt even told me of the move. I will be taking him to court for support payments. I need to know when should I get a lawyer for custody?I really dont want him to see my baby at all. But I realize that that is a decision for him to make, not me, beings that it is in the best intrest of the child to have both parents involved in the life if and when possible. Can I get a lawyer now, I am due in 5 weeks. Or should I wait until the baby is born? What is the income limits for a court appointed lawyer? I already have a 6 yr old son from a previous relationship. I am not able to afford a lawyer at this point, but cant really risk going without one either. At the most, with his current behavior, I do not want to see him with anything more than suppervised visitations. I dont think that he will even try to be in my babys life, but I dont want to take any chances on anything. I want it all in legal writing. My intentions are to be able to call the lawyer when I give birth so that he/she can mail out the approperate documents. Is this possible? Please advise
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Old 05-09-2000, 12:52 PM
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This is only coming from my own experience and as IAAL likes to remind us all it varies from state to state but here is what I know.....
My daughters father was a lot like your ex in that he showed NO interest in the pregnancy/birth unless you call wishing it all away interest! Anyway, after my daughter was born I went to my local legal aid office and asked for the "child custody packet"....these are the forms that allow you to file for custody and visitation rulings. I completed the packet (they include EASY to follow instructions!!!) and turned it in w/the court fees and from there on out it was just a matter of following procedure. Most importantly in this packet I was able to spell out exactly what visitation procedures I was wanting to have happen - keep in mind that IF he chooses to fight it or if the judge thinks that he/she has better ideas these can be changed before the orders are signed but at least you have an opportunity to request your way - so YES, you can specifically state that your ex would be allowed say 1 day a week, 1 weekend a month or whatever you want SUPERVISED visitation....one note - if you plan to breastfeed your child this is important so you can be able to nurse your baby......the courts are especially willing to follow the supervised stipulation with infants. Spell it out - you don't want to leave any loopholes for whatever lawyer he might hire to find and go through. Be Specific - for instance I stipulated one weekend a month...Friday evening to Monday morning....until age five when it will be one weekend a month .....Friday evening to Sunday afternoon (school concerns)...and at age 5 two weeks during the summer. Also, per my petition, we alternate the Thanksgiving/Christmas holidays. ....the most important thing is to spell it all out....say you would request "respondent shall have one day SUPERVISED visitation per week with the child .....or what ever you want. DO NOT...however, be to stingy as that could work against you. Keep in mind that the judge can alter this or your ex COULD fight it and file an "answer" in which he offers his own ideas ...... in this event the judge may/may not call a hearing where you can both appear and he will hear your arguments and rule or he/she may simply rule without a hearing. For me it was a very easy /painless thing to do and it is important for you to get it done because if not *and this is why I did it* he can file his own case to get custody or visitation and you will have to be on the defensive. GET LEGAL CUSTODY OF YOUR CHILD AS SOON AS YOU CAN AFTER THE BABY IS BORN!!!!! If you have any questions contact your local legal aid or a lawyer in your area!
 



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