<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by 1/2aman:
My wife is leaving due to an adoption that fell through?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
You best bet is to shield her from this other women. I presume she has had a great deal to do with dealing with her. Maybe she does this because the moment you and your ex face off you both feel like hitting each other.. so your wife has had to deal with all this on your behalf ???
If you are allowing this other women to disrupt your lives and in many ways control it, then it is not surprising that she may feel lost or the need to get out. After all, It is HER family and someone else is in partial control.
For the sake of your wife, protect her and DO NOT allow your ex to mess you around anymore.. it is a simple choice, your ex or your wife. Which are you going to choose ?.
If you ex can not follow court orders and is so disruptive, then sort it out. Little jimmy is returned two hours late so her next visitation is cancelled etc..
Whatever you do.. do not face up to this women.. remain in control, walk away from her and show your wife you can handle it.
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