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usdeeper...Thank you for your reply. I have alredy done those things. I would like at this point, considering what they have been doing , have nothing to do with them at all. But the fathers' attorney has sent a letter that he wants overnight visits as soon as possible. I told him no, that my terms for now are that he was to see her only in my presence (supervised) and that he could see her anytime he wanted during the proceedings. He has made no attemp. Again, the question, why the blood testing? And if the judge knew that he has not denied that she is h is daughter, would he reconsider his motion to make me pay half. Back to visitations, the thought of two people conspiring to falsely accuse me of anything, worries me. And the father told me himself that his wife is extremely vindictive. And as you can see she is also a control freak from what I have written before. I can't help but mention that the "worried dad" writers attitude is errily similar to this womans. Let me put it this way, I double check my locks at night. My question about this is how much do I need to worry about false alligations? There have been horror stories, one after another in the news or in this
Bulletin, even. It seems that it takes even more than twice the time to undo damage that has already been done. So how can you prevent it? Perhaps other readers who have been falsely accused can offer advise.....Please HELP!

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[b]But the fathers' attorney has sent a letter that he wants overnight visits as soon as possible. [/b]

Luckily, it is highly unlikely he can legally get overnight visitation for at least another year, maybe more, because of the age of the child.

[b]Again, the question, why the blood testing? [/b]

Because at some point, he has refused to accept or believe the baby is his. So he has requested a test.

[b]And if the judge knew that he has not denied that she is h is daughter, would he reconsider his motion to make me pay half. [/b]

What proof do you have of this ?.. if you have actual proof then maybe.. but I think the judge will not change things. If the test is positive then he might be ordered to repay you for your half.

[b]My question about this is how much do I need to worry about false alligations? [/b]

You document everything. Tape record every conversation. All correspondance should be written and recorded. Accept nothing from this couple unless it is written. This is what we do for my wifes ex. We never talk to him on the phone. If the they threaten you or come to your place then call the police. File police reports. Collect witnesses for any impending legal action etc.

[b]So how can you prevent it? Perhaps other readers who have been falsely accused can offer advise[/b]

It really is tough.. and I know that some people say that they lost because of the other persons lies.. but I do have some faith in the law and believe that the burden of proof is on anyone who claims anything.

In my current case, my wifes ex is accusing us of two main things... but we KNOW they he has no way of proving this. If you following the correct legal proceding, get a semi decent attorney then you will be fine.

Document, document, DOCUMENT.

thank you again for the advise.I have more peace of mind.
however how do you know that the attorney you have hired is doing all that he can do?
I know that attoneys can become extremley buisy.But how busy is to buisy?How far do you take your unerstanding and patience?
Ido like my attorney but every time I have a question he is in court or like this last time with the bloodtest I need it done before the 15th and hes gone on vacation for 2 weeks.Patience is a virtue but what is a healthy line to draw?HE did leave some breifs for another attorney who works for him.But again its been several days and I have not recieved a return phone call.The people at the lab have been expecting a reply from me so that they can set up a mutual day that the father and I can meet.
your advise would be once more appreciated.

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[b]however how do you know that the attorney you have hired is doing all that he can do? [/b]

By doing as much research as you can. You would not believe the resources that you have available to you via the internet. You can look up any law, any procedure etc.. You will also find a great deal of information the actual procedures you have been ask. By educating yourself, you can not only help your attorney, but also get a feeling if they are doing all they can. Nobody knows the case as well as you do, so you need to ensure you can education your attorney, with facts, not emotions. When it comes to most legal cases, emotions are no use and just get in the way.

Personally, I like to find attorneys with websites that detail the experience. See what organisations they are members of etc.. I also prefer an attorney to be a member of a lawfirm and not operating on their own. My case is up next week and my attorney is on holiday. So the other partner is taking over, replacing a 15 years experience attorney with someone with 17 years.

I also prefer female attorneys, they seem to be more concerned where children are concerned and where they see a case of a man trying to bully the women. The few male attorneys I have spoken to just treat the whole thing as a matter of fact.. no real concern, just more crap etc.

Finally, an attorney with email helps. I have communicated a few times with my attorney via email. Today I received my Petition to Answer, sent back a correction, got another copy, printed it, signed and faxed it back. All within 20 minutes.

[b]I know that attoneys can become extremley buisy.But how busy is to buisy?[/b]

I personally would like to see a 'turnround' of 5 days for anything.

[b]How far do you take your unerstanding and patience?[/b]

You have to remember, that some attorneys, you are just another case. To you, this is a very stressful period and a loss could be the worse thing to happen to you.

By educating yourself, you will be able to size up the situation for yourself.

[b]Ido like my attorney but every time I have a question he is in court or like this last time with the bloodtest I need it done before the 15th and hes gone on vacation for 2 weeks.[/b]

Again, research and keep all your questions until set times. Never use an attorney that has no backup or does not notify you of his vacation.

[b]HE did leave some breifs for another attorney who works for him.But again its been several days and I have not recieved a return phone call.[/b]

Call again.. and again.. and again. In the event of no response, get another attorney immediately.