1) Yet your wife benefited from him working on a boat due to the pay and other benefits that went with it.
2) She "allows" him? She has no right to allow or disallow. She needs to get over being a control freak.
3) Then she needs to grow up and learn to coparent.
4) Quite frankly she should have known how to co-parent before she had all three children with him. These children are NOT just her children. He is just as much as their parent as she is.
5) AND? His history of child support or not isn't your business. What did your wife to enforce the court order that required him to pay? Did your wife tell him about the appointments that lead to the medical bills? Did she copy him on the bills? Did she put him on the medical records?
6) Really? How do you know he tells them to lie? You have no right to be angry about how dad parents HIS children.
7) Yes but your wife unilaterally dictated to dad what would or wouldn't happen.
8) So blame your wife because she is the one responsible for the move not taking place. She acted inappropriately and selfishly.
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that's ok though, I like differing opinions.
1. Yes she did get the benefits, she also go the breakdown of the marriage due to distance. That's not really a benefit
2. I quoted the "allowed" word myself. I couldn't think of a better word but maybe "accepting that he has the right". I said she has a hard time, she is working on it but change is difficult for some
3. She does need to learn to coparent, but in the word itself it says that it requires work from both sides. 1 parent can't learn to co parent if the other parent doesn't
4. Same as 3, she should have known how but that is how the two of them decided to raise their kids at the time and I can't really comment on the right or wrong of it
5a. His history of child support/other payments isn't my business I was saying that his history causes my wife to get upset with him and it impacts their ability to communicate because, as with many people, it's difficult to put emotions aside.
5c. To enforce the order she sent demand letters after 90 days (court order says 30) with offers to make payment arrangements if he couldn't pay it all at once. His response was to tell her she isn't a bill collector. She filed for contempt and it was lumped in with the relocation when relocation came around.
5b. Yes she tells him about the appoints as soon as they are made. All bills are sent as soon as they are received, monthly a spreadsheet is sent over that shows all of the kids medical bills year to date.
6. I've seen it in text messages and heard the kids say it
7. I don't have a ton of experience but since I've been looking into family court stuff I've found the word "unilaterally" is typically used to paint a picture as opposed to state a fact. She consulted with an attorney, myself and our family counselor before making decisions, she attempted to consult with her ex but he wouldn't. Personally I wouldn't call that unilateral.
8) I haven't blamed anyone, court order says what it says and the judge clarified that. We followed the process for relocation and were denied relocation, really there isn't a blame here it's just process.