What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee, Putnam County
After a lot of drama I didn’t need in my life, my grandmother took me to court to get visitations with my oldest daughter. From reading most of the posts here, and talking with everyone I thought might know something about it, I was sure she wouldn’t get it. But her lawyer used the case of Smallwood vs. Mann to win the case, and was awarded visitations every other weekend from 9am to 2pm.
For numerous reasons, I didn’t want to send my child with her, so I didn’t. She took me back to court, and the judge found me in contempt, and made me serve 3 days in jail, with 80 days suspended, and the understanding that if I missed one more visit, he would enforce the 80 days.
I had never been in trouble before, and jail was no place to be, so I was scared, and started sending her to visit. In less than 2 months, things escalated to the point that I was willing to serve the 80 days to save my kids some stress. Something I wish I hadn’t done, but it’s over and done with now, can’t go back.
Now she is taking me back to court to make me serve the 80 days, and is trying to get full custody of her because I will be away for an extended time. If I have to serve the 80 days, I will lose my apartment because it’s a lease violation, I will be kicked out of school, and maybe even lose my girls.
I can’t afford a attorney, it’s just not a possibility. So I started reading everything I could, but the language of law is just gibberish to me. I read over and over, and just can’t get it. I have read the Smallwood vs. Mann a hundred times, and still don’t come close to understanding it.
So my question is…………what can I do to “defeat” the Smallwood vs. Mann argument? If I could show that she shouldn’t have won visitation rights to begin with, then I wouldn’t have been found in contempt. I’m sure it doesn’t work that way, but I’m grasping at straws here. I am more worried about her getting custody than the jail time. I made up my mind long ago the jail time was worth it, but I didn’t think that would include me losing custody.
I don’t want to lose my girls, and although it’s my fault I didn’t send her to visit, I really do have good reasons, it’s just that the post gets too long to explain. Thanks in advance for your help.
After a lot of drama I didn’t need in my life, my grandmother took me to court to get visitations with my oldest daughter. From reading most of the posts here, and talking with everyone I thought might know something about it, I was sure she wouldn’t get it. But her lawyer used the case of Smallwood vs. Mann to win the case, and was awarded visitations every other weekend from 9am to 2pm.
For numerous reasons, I didn’t want to send my child with her, so I didn’t. She took me back to court, and the judge found me in contempt, and made me serve 3 days in jail, with 80 days suspended, and the understanding that if I missed one more visit, he would enforce the 80 days.
I had never been in trouble before, and jail was no place to be, so I was scared, and started sending her to visit. In less than 2 months, things escalated to the point that I was willing to serve the 80 days to save my kids some stress. Something I wish I hadn’t done, but it’s over and done with now, can’t go back.
Now she is taking me back to court to make me serve the 80 days, and is trying to get full custody of her because I will be away for an extended time. If I have to serve the 80 days, I will lose my apartment because it’s a lease violation, I will be kicked out of school, and maybe even lose my girls.
I can’t afford a attorney, it’s just not a possibility. So I started reading everything I could, but the language of law is just gibberish to me. I read over and over, and just can’t get it. I have read the Smallwood vs. Mann a hundred times, and still don’t come close to understanding it.
So my question is…………what can I do to “defeat” the Smallwood vs. Mann argument? If I could show that she shouldn’t have won visitation rights to begin with, then I wouldn’t have been found in contempt. I’m sure it doesn’t work that way, but I’m grasping at straws here. I am more worried about her getting custody than the jail time. I made up my mind long ago the jail time was worth it, but I didn’t think that would include me losing custody.
I don’t want to lose my girls, and although it’s my fault I didn’t send her to visit, I really do have good reasons, it’s just that the post gets too long to explain. Thanks in advance for your help.