beeper1127
Junior Member
What is the name of your state - New York - (only U.S. law)?
Hello,
Received a letter from paternal grandparents attorney seeking to set up visitation. Father of children is now deceased, before his demise I went into bankruptcy fighting and gaining Sole Legal and Physical Custody where we were living in Va. Moved to NY in July 2013, he passed Oct 2013. I have never denied visitation with grandparents though I also have never left my children alone with them. Father and I were in agreement on this until the custody battle. Mental illness runs rampant through the family and the mother is an enabler. I informed grandmother we would continue visits as in the past during the big school breaks summer, christmas and spring break. Father of my children committed suicide, paternal grandfather and youngest son are both on medication for mental illness youngest being under court order. Paternal mother has a dangerous lack of judgement and turns a blind eye to their behavior. I am trying to give relevant information without bashing anyone, these are facts. After childrens father committed suicide I spoke with a child psychologist and we both agreed it was not the time to tell the children. They are young and had no contact with father for over a year, he missed court ordered supervised visitation on severa occasions and it was suspended, no phone mail or contact of any kind. I explained this to grandmother and asked her she not speak of him at all to the girls, she told me she will say what she wants about her son. When I spoke with her about the abuse being one of the reasons I was divorcing her son she said "well are you giving him enough?" there are many other reasons they have never been left alone with the children for the childrens safety and why visitation is limited. Children love their grandparents and I have never said a bad word about them or childrens father, it is in their best interest to keep things the way they are. What chance do I have of winning in court without an attorney and will any of the previous information be usable in court? I can not afford an attorney at all and would appreciate any advice on how to behave in court.
thank you
Hello,
Received a letter from paternal grandparents attorney seeking to set up visitation. Father of children is now deceased, before his demise I went into bankruptcy fighting and gaining Sole Legal and Physical Custody where we were living in Va. Moved to NY in July 2013, he passed Oct 2013. I have never denied visitation with grandparents though I also have never left my children alone with them. Father and I were in agreement on this until the custody battle. Mental illness runs rampant through the family and the mother is an enabler. I informed grandmother we would continue visits as in the past during the big school breaks summer, christmas and spring break. Father of my children committed suicide, paternal grandfather and youngest son are both on medication for mental illness youngest being under court order. Paternal mother has a dangerous lack of judgement and turns a blind eye to their behavior. I am trying to give relevant information without bashing anyone, these are facts. After childrens father committed suicide I spoke with a child psychologist and we both agreed it was not the time to tell the children. They are young and had no contact with father for over a year, he missed court ordered supervised visitation on severa occasions and it was suspended, no phone mail or contact of any kind. I explained this to grandmother and asked her she not speak of him at all to the girls, she told me she will say what she wants about her son. When I spoke with her about the abuse being one of the reasons I was divorcing her son she said "well are you giving him enough?" there are many other reasons they have never been left alone with the children for the childrens safety and why visitation is limited. Children love their grandparents and I have never said a bad word about them or childrens father, it is in their best interest to keep things the way they are. What chance do I have of winning in court without an attorney and will any of the previous information be usable in court? I can not afford an attorney at all and would appreciate any advice on how to behave in court.
thank you