Grandparent trying to recieve permanent custody.

[amorey20]

My sister had a baby almost 6 years ago. She will be 6 next month. She is a great kid! The thing is, my sister was never a good mom in my eyes. She never kept a job, or supported her. My mom bought everything for her from a crib and diapers to her school clothes for this year. When Kayleah was almost 3, we went to court and tried to get full custody but ended up getting shared parenting of her. My mom has her all week, except for the weekends when my sister is supposed to come and get her. Also, my sister requested getting her on wednesday nights. She got her on wednesdays and weekends for awhile, but after the first year she stopped getting her on wednesdays altogether. And now she rarely ever gets her on the weekends. She is due Aug 30th with another baby and has no job, money to support the new baby. She lives with her bf, and his mom in a trailor park in london ohio. They don't even have a bedroom for Kayleah or the new baby. Before this guy shes dating now, she dating a guy who smoked marajuana and so did she. We went to pick up Kayleah from her bf's apartment and there was marajuana all over the kitchen counter. I was so angry. We called the police and made a complaint to children services. They interviewed all of us seperately and eventually just closed the case I believe. When kayleah was 2 we also filed a complaint with children services cause when we picked her up from her mother and another bf's house she had a busted lip, and we asked her what happened to her lip, she said her mommy punched her. They took kayleah out of all of our cares, for about a week then we got her back. Another bf she dated was a registered child molestor in the state of ohio, and she knew that he was. She makes all the bad decisions, and dates all these losers. Kayleah had lived with my mother and I all of her life except for 3 months when my sister got her own apartment when kayleah was about 1. Then she begin talking to a guy online, and moved back in with us. One day out of no where, we all woke up and she was gone. She didn't say anything to any of us, including Kayleah. A few weeks later she told us that she met a guy off the internet and moved in with the same day she met him. I was so angry with her and I still am. She makes all these bad choices tha are affecting her daughter and she doesn't care. We didn't have shared parenting at this time so we had to let her take her with her when she came home to visit. So, she took her and then a week later we came to pick her up, and Kayleah was dirty. and smelled like urine. We asked her if she had a bath, and she said no. We asked her if she had fun, she said her mom's bf hit her mom. We told my sister we were going to court...and that is where we recieved shared parenting. But it has been 3 years since then, and she has not got one job to help with her, she lives with her bfs mom, not in her own place. And childrens services was involved another time with the drugs after we got the shared parenting. What can we do? I want to put a stop to her ruining my niece's life. I love her too much to see her hurt. I would adopt her if I could, but i'm in college and I work full time and im too young right now.

[Gracie3787]

Laws vary from state to state.

What state are you in?

[BL]

[quote=Gracie3787;2338070]Laws vary from state to state.

What state are you in?[/QUOTE

First of all , if the court or child services hasn't put a stop to visits and intervened ,the MOM will continue shared parenting .

Recent history will dictate .

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by amorey20

My sister had a baby almost 6 years ago. She will be 6 next month. She is a great kid! The thing is, my sister was never a good mom in my eyes. She never kept a job, or supported her. My mom bought everything for her from a crib and diapers to her school clothes for this year. When Kayleah was almost 3, we went to court and tried to get full custody but ended up getting shared parenting of her. My mom has her all week, except for the weekends when my sister is supposed to come and get her. Also, my sister requested getting her on wednesday nights. She got her on wednesdays and weekends for awhile, but after the first year she stopped getting her on wednesdays altogether. And now she rarely ever gets her on the weekends. She is due Aug 30th with another baby and has no job, money to support the new baby. She lives with her bf, and his mom in a trailor park in london ohio. They don't even have a bedroom for Kayleah or the new baby. Before this guy shes dating now, she dating a guy who smoked marajuana and so did she. We went to pick up Kayleah from her bf's apartment and there was marajuana all over the kitchen counter. I was so angry. We called the police and made a complaint to children services. They interviewed all of us seperately and eventually just closed the case I believe. When kayleah was 2 we also filed a complaint with children services cause when we picked her up from her mother and another bf's house she had a busted lip, and we asked her what happened to her lip, she said her mommy punched her. They took kayleah out of all of our cares, for about a week then we got her back. Another bf she dated was a registered child molestor in the state of ohio, and she knew that he was. She makes all the bad decisions, and dates all these losers. Kayleah had lived with my mother and I all of her life except for 3 months when my sister got her own apartment when kayleah was about 1. Then she begin talking to a guy online, and moved back in with us. One day out of no where, we all woke up and she was gone. She didn't say anything to any of us, including Kayleah. A few weeks later she told us that she met a guy off the internet and moved in with the same day she met him. I was so angry with her and I still am. She makes all these bad choices tha are affecting her daughter and she doesn't care. We didn't have shared parenting at this time so we had to let her take her with her when she came home to visit. So, she took her and then a week later we came to pick her up, and Kayleah was dirty. and smelled like urine. We asked her if she had a bath, and she said no. We asked her if she had fun, she said her mom's bf hit her mom. We told my sister we were going to court...and that is where we recieved shared parenting. But it has been 3 years since then, and she has not got one job to help with her, she lives with her bfs mom, not in her own place. And childrens services was involved another time with the drugs after we got the shared parenting. What can we do? I want to put a stop to her ruining my niece's life. I love her too much to see her hurt. I would adopt her if I could, but i'm in college and I work full time and im too young right now.

After all this I am making some guesses -- you live in Ohio. CPS has not done anything but close the case. Now for the major questions:

WHO exactly has shared parenting -- you or grandma AND mom? What about Kayleah's father? What exactly do the orders state word for word (leaving out names)?
Marijuana is not an issue for the most part with CSB UNLESS it is negatively impacting mom's parenting and it can be proven to do so. There is case law that backs that up.
Does mom or dad or both have an order for child support?
You cannot adopt your niece at this juncture. Please answer my questions.