deserted_island
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? TEXAS
My husband is an active duty airman currently stationed in Iraq. He abandoned me before our first child was born and we were in the proccess of divorcing when he recieved his orders. My son is now 10 months old and after only having called/seen my son one time my husband's Mother has taken me to court for a grandparent's intervention.
I researched this topic beforehand and felt reasonably sure that a judge wouldn't grant her court ordered visitation as she had no previous relationship with my child (of her own choice), I have never avoided calls or kept her from visiting with my son for any reason, and I doubted she could prove it would do mental/physical harm for her to not have visitation as she has never visited him before and that was her descision.
Today in court however I was completely devasted when my attorney told me that the judge was going to give her visitation no matter what because my husband is unable to excercise his visitation...he did not speak to the judge about it, he just told me that's what the judge would rule - and that my only option was to come to a visitation agreement and then go before the judge for approval. We left with her getting my son from 9:00am to 5:00pm on the 1st and 3rd Wednesday's each month.
I am disgusted with this ruling and quite overwhelmed. I have purposefully never kept my son away from his Grandmother regardless of how I felt towards her (she origionally insisted on and paid for a paternity test and refused to acknowledge my son's birth) because I would never have wanted to give a judge any reason to bring court-ordered visitation into what I believe should be resolved as a family.
I am only 20 and honestly don't have the funds to fight this readily at my disposal....please advise me on what to do next - find a new attorney? appeal? Help!
Also, she origionally agreed at our divorce hearing while trying for court ordered visitation that she would not smoke and would meet in a smoke-free environment and the one time she saw my son she smoked. She also agreed today that visitation would be smoke-free but I believe that to be another lie - do I have any options regarding this matter?
My husband is an active duty airman currently stationed in Iraq. He abandoned me before our first child was born and we were in the proccess of divorcing when he recieved his orders. My son is now 10 months old and after only having called/seen my son one time my husband's Mother has taken me to court for a grandparent's intervention.
I researched this topic beforehand and felt reasonably sure that a judge wouldn't grant her court ordered visitation as she had no previous relationship with my child (of her own choice), I have never avoided calls or kept her from visiting with my son for any reason, and I doubted she could prove it would do mental/physical harm for her to not have visitation as she has never visited him before and that was her descision.
Today in court however I was completely devasted when my attorney told me that the judge was going to give her visitation no matter what because my husband is unable to excercise his visitation...he did not speak to the judge about it, he just told me that's what the judge would rule - and that my only option was to come to a visitation agreement and then go before the judge for approval. We left with her getting my son from 9:00am to 5:00pm on the 1st and 3rd Wednesday's each month.
I am disgusted with this ruling and quite overwhelmed. I have purposefully never kept my son away from his Grandmother regardless of how I felt towards her (she origionally insisted on and paid for a paternity test and refused to acknowledge my son's birth) because I would never have wanted to give a judge any reason to bring court-ordered visitation into what I believe should be resolved as a family.
I am only 20 and honestly don't have the funds to fight this readily at my disposal....please advise me on what to do next - find a new attorney? appeal? Help!
Also, she origionally agreed at our divorce hearing while trying for court ordered visitation that she would not smoke and would meet in a smoke-free environment and the one time she saw my son she smoked. She also agreed today that visitation would be smoke-free but I believe that to be another lie - do I have any options regarding this matter?