grandparents rights in wi and mn. help

[j.j24]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WI or MN

Hello,

I was married in wi and divorced in wi. I live in mn now ex lives in wi. Do i have the choice to go through a mn court system or do i have to stay with wi?

Anyway to my story:
My ex and i got pregnant and married when we were 20 divorced when 22. he left me for someone else. he's folks helped me out with daycare (as in they babysat for free) i took them up on it cuz i couldn't afford it. they also took our son everyother weekend so dad could see him. his folks and i saw him as irresponsible. (all he wanted to do was be with his girlfriend and drink) so in the divorce papers i put that his parents are to be there when he visits for weekend til he can be responsible. big mistake. his folks completly took over they don't let him do anything. they let our son do whatever he wants they never say no to him. ex. i went to a friends wedding my boyfriend was in it. i told my son he had one chance be good and listen or we he and i go home needless to say he blew it i had to carry him (age 4) to the car while he punched me. i told him he could not go to gramma's the following night cuz it's all fun and games there. unless he he could prove himself. gramma told me i'm mean and i shouldn't take him away from the people who love him. and a whole bunch of other stuff. it was just one night not a forever thing. she was already mad at me for not haveing her babysit anymore cuz my hours changed. she threatened court on me. Now i haven't had much trouble with her since that fight. (even though there is more crap in between) my son is 7 now he has been diagnosed with adhd. i've never been one to agree on pills but i want him to learn and pay attention in school. i notice a big change in him. grandma is trying to talk me out of it i wont budge so she's not happy. i feel a lot of his tude issues is cuz gramma lets him do whatever he wants like climbing on the counter getting toys even though he wasn't listening, giving him cookie on time outs, never telling him no.....then when he comes home i do not allow him to do that stuff and when i say no he actually starts crying, screaming and kicking he even throws things. i'm at my wits end. i don't want him going to her house anymore unless it's on dads time. i'm terriffied she will take him from me. i do not like confrontations and get very nervous. i'm scared to lose my son. i just want to be a mother to him and do wants best for him. dad has all his rights back i made sure of it, but he also seems to be afraid of her. he can take him everyother weekend but doesn't he sees him at he's folks instead.

sorry if i didn't make sense. i tried. i just feel lost.

[Ohiogal]

Why do you want to go to court? Do the grandparents have court ordered visitation?

[j.j24]

no they do not but she has threatened me before. and i'm thinking about not letting him go over there as much anymore. so i'm trying to get a jump start on this. just in case. i do have full custody.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by j.j24

no they do not but she has threatened me before. and i'm thinking about not letting him go over there as much anymore. so i'm trying to get a jump start on this. just in case. i do have full custody.

what is dad's visitation schedule? as grandparents were set as supervisers, what is the wording in the court order? who does the transportation per the order?

[j.j24]

he has got everyother weekend we alternat holidays and he now gets one month in the summer broken up or at once. also as long as he contacts me at least a week before he may be able for extra time. he has not done any of that except visit for a few hours at his folks house. he no longer has supervised visits.

when he was supervised it was everyother weekend at his folks house and everyother holiday

my ex's mother is very controlling and i made the mistake of giving her that control.

but what he does on his time i can't control. i'm worried that if i put a hold on my son going to gramma's on my time she will take me to court. i cannot afford that so i'm afraid she'll beable to take him away from me even though i've done nothing wrong, but try to keep the peace.

my son is overly spoiled gramma gives him everything. i do not and i couldn't even if i wanted to

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by j.j24

he has got everyother weekend we alternat holidays and he now gets one month in the summer broken up or at once. also as long as he contacts me at least a week before he may be able for extra time. he has not done any of that except visit for a few hours at his folks house. he no longer has supervised visits.

when he was supervised it was everyother weekend at his folks house and everyother holiday

my ex's mother is very controlling and i made the mistake of giving her that control.

but what he does on his time i can't control. i'm worried that if i put a hold on my son going to gramma's on my time she will take me to court. i cannot afford that so i'm afraid she'll beable to take him away from me even though i've done nothing wrong, but try to keep the peace.

my son is overly spoiled gramma gives him everything. i do not and i couldn't even if i wanted to

ex still lives at his mother's house?

case stays in WI. unless dad consents to a jurisdiction change.

grandma cannot legally take custody from you based on your posts. not a chance.

grandparent visitation rights are almost non existent as she can visit child on dad's time.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano

ex still lives at his mother's house?

case stays in WI. unless dad consents to a jurisdiction change.

grandma cannot legally take custody from you based on your posts. not a chance.

grandparent visitation rights are almost non existent as she can visit child on dad's time.

I agree with Isabella.

There is no possible way that grandma could take custody from you, and grandma's odds of getting court ordered visitation would be slim.

However...and this is important to understand...If dad exercises his visitation and then turns around and gives the child to grandma for the weekend, there is nothing that you can do about that.

[j.j24]

ok. thank you. i just wanted to be sure that she couldn't try to take him. i know that i have no say when he goes to dad's. i don't want to take him away. every child needs their grandparents, but sometimes they cross the line forgetting who the parent is.