grandson needs help

[suzieqlou]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
My duaghter, who was once a good mother, has turned to drugs. She is a single mom, currently has my 2 1/2 year old grandson's father living with her. Both are into shooting up now. I'm very worried for my grandson's safety. He is midly autistic-non verbal. We just learned that the father turned his car over to drug supplier to cover their drugs. House is filthy, she spends all her time sleeping, has been fired from her job, and is neglecting her son. I want to take child from her, provide loving home. He needs to be in special schooling, seeing doctors, which she is not doing anything about. Really don't want to involve children's services as grandson could end up in a foster home. What can we do to get him out of that house and her in rehab if possible?

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by suzieqlou

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
My duaghter, who was once a good mother, has turned to drugs. She is a single mom, currently has my 2 1/2 year old grandson's father living with her. Both are into shooting up now. I'm very worried for my grandson's safety. He is midly autistic-non verbal. We just learned that the father turned his car over to drug supplier to cover their drugs. House is filthy, she spends all her time sleeping, has been fired from her job, and is neglecting her son. I want to take child from her, provide loving home. He needs to be in special schooling, seeing doctors, which she is not doing anything about. Really don't want to involve children's services as grandson could end up in a foster home. What can we do to get him out of that house and her in rehab if possible?

This may sound harsh, but here we go.

CALL CPS IF YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT HIS WELFARE.

Your fear of him ending up in a foster home should never come before his actual safety. EVER. You're basically saying "Well, he's kind of neglected, but it's not serious enough to get anyone involved if it means we can't see him afterwards".

Please think about this.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

This may sound harsh, but here we go.

CALL CPS IF YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT HIS WELFARE.

Your fear of him ending up in a foster home should never come before his actual safety. EVER. You're basically saying "Well, he's kind of neglected, but it's not serious enough to get anyone involved if it means we can't see him afterwards".

Please think about this.

i'm going to say ditto to this.

one key thing....and that is being available to CPS. grandma, how close do you live to mom and dad? are you willing to say no to mom and dad? follow the CPS rules? be subjected to their requirements? if you make yourself available, CPS loves placing children with families. it's less of a burden on them.

[JKBee]

Really don't want to involve children's services as grandson could end up in a foster home. What can we do to get him out of that house

In WA there is something called "responsible adult placement." This is where CPS can remove a child and place this child with someone, relative or otherwise, who is known to the child or/and has an active interest in the child. It is totally possible for CPS to remove this child and place the child in your custody, it this is what you want.

But whatever you do, call CPS! How will you feel if you have to go into intensive care to visit this child, or worse yet, to the morgue to identify him? Worse case scenario, but this is a very real possibility.

Please take immediate action!

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by JKBee

Really don't want to involve children's services as grandson could end up in a foster home. What can we do to get him out of that house

In WA there is something called "responsible adult placement." This is where CPS can remove a child and place this child with someone, relative or otherwise, who is known to the child or/and has an active interest in the child. It is totally possible for CPS to remove this child and place the child in your custody, it this is what you want.

But whatever you do, call CPS! How will you feel if you have to go into intensive care to visit this child, or worse yet, to the morgue to identify him? Worse case scenario, but this is a very real possibility.

Please take immediate action!

JK, which part of "Stop Posting Irrelevant Information" are you not understanding?

Virtually EVERY ONE of your posts have that included your little "In WA...this is how it is..." bit. You have been asked politely to stop, and you have been given the reasons why your posts are not helping. Do you understand why you're being asked to do this?

Knock. It. Off.

Seriously.

[suzieqlou]

thanks you for your replies. I guess I already knew that, just didn't want to accept it. His welfare does need to come first.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by suzieqlou

thanks you for your replies. I guess I already knew that, just didn't want to accept it. His welfare does need to come first.

suzie, I know it's completely wrenching and heartbreaking to watch something happen and feel powerless to do anything....moreso when you love the one who's suffering, and when doing something about it means you might lose them.

At the moment all you can do is do it by the book. If he's genuinely in danger (and you're going to need proof), you'll do the right thing and eventually, when all is said and done, that little boy will be thankful that someone put his needs before the needs of anyone else. Whether or not he'll ever be able to tell you that himself, you'll know it's true.