What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
Hi All,
A little background, we were living in NY, her parents made us an offer to move out to California, so we left NY on Feb 1, 2012. My son just turned 5 years old 4 days ago, his mom and I are in the process of divorcing. We lived under their (in laws/grandparents) roof for a couple years until January 2014 when I decided to move out and got a place on my own. His mom stayed under their roof for another 10 months after i left. Custody was agreed to be joint and We would alternate weekends and share him during the week, with his preschool being the point of drop off and pick up.
I am getting sick and tired of her parents making decisions for our son without consulting the both of us. For example, the grandmother is adamant that my son learn to swim (i agree that he needs this skill). She went behind my back and signed him up for swimming lessons in another town nowhere convenient to me from my home or work. She just called me up one day and said he's been signed up for swimming M, W and Fri, and that i could pick him up at their home afterwards. Another example, our son may have some form ADHD and I was in the process of getting him to see a therapist or doctor. Grandma took it upon herself to sign him, his mom and me up for counseling, again, in a town not convenient for me.
The whole time living under their roof the grandma would say "Oh, we'll have to get him in early for elementary school", the school she wants to get him into is in their town. This may have been fine while we were there but now things have drastically changed. We are divorcing and his mom and I don't live in that town anymore. Come September he will be entering kindergarten and I will be damned if his grandparents go behind our back and sign him up for their school of choice. He needs to go to school where its equidistant from his mothers place and mine, not a convenience for his grandparents.
I here talk about signing him up for Karate and other sports and I am getting pissed off. That's my job to do as his dad. I am very much involved in my sons life and it is my right to share these "Father-Son" moments with him and they are taking that away from me.
What I want to know is if I am in my legal rights to write up some paperwork barring them from making any decisions that affect our son and us the parents. I don't want them meddling anymore. They sign him up for things convenient to their location and then just spring stuff on me like i'm supposed just be okay with it. Well that's over now. Any advice as to how I should proceed? My plan was to write up this "injunction" so to speak, and have his mom and I sign it and have it notarized then mailed to them by certified mail. Would this hold up in court? I don't want them to miss out on their grandson but what i REALLY don't want is them making these life-jarring decisions. Yes, life-jarring because I don't have any say after the fact. I have to leave work early, I have to leave my usual travel route, I waste gas going way out of my way because its convenient for them. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Hi All,
A little background, we were living in NY, her parents made us an offer to move out to California, so we left NY on Feb 1, 2012. My son just turned 5 years old 4 days ago, his mom and I are in the process of divorcing. We lived under their (in laws/grandparents) roof for a couple years until January 2014 when I decided to move out and got a place on my own. His mom stayed under their roof for another 10 months after i left. Custody was agreed to be joint and We would alternate weekends and share him during the week, with his preschool being the point of drop off and pick up.
I am getting sick and tired of her parents making decisions for our son without consulting the both of us. For example, the grandmother is adamant that my son learn to swim (i agree that he needs this skill). She went behind my back and signed him up for swimming lessons in another town nowhere convenient to me from my home or work. She just called me up one day and said he's been signed up for swimming M, W and Fri, and that i could pick him up at their home afterwards. Another example, our son may have some form ADHD and I was in the process of getting him to see a therapist or doctor. Grandma took it upon herself to sign him, his mom and me up for counseling, again, in a town not convenient for me.
The whole time living under their roof the grandma would say "Oh, we'll have to get him in early for elementary school", the school she wants to get him into is in their town. This may have been fine while we were there but now things have drastically changed. We are divorcing and his mom and I don't live in that town anymore. Come September he will be entering kindergarten and I will be damned if his grandparents go behind our back and sign him up for their school of choice. He needs to go to school where its equidistant from his mothers place and mine, not a convenience for his grandparents.
I here talk about signing him up for Karate and other sports and I am getting pissed off. That's my job to do as his dad. I am very much involved in my sons life and it is my right to share these "Father-Son" moments with him and they are taking that away from me.
What I want to know is if I am in my legal rights to write up some paperwork barring them from making any decisions that affect our son and us the parents. I don't want them meddling anymore. They sign him up for things convenient to their location and then just spring stuff on me like i'm supposed just be okay with it. Well that's over now. Any advice as to how I should proceed? My plan was to write up this "injunction" so to speak, and have his mom and I sign it and have it notarized then mailed to them by certified mail. Would this hold up in court? I don't want them to miss out on their grandson but what i REALLY don't want is them making these life-jarring decisions. Yes, life-jarring because I don't have any say after the fact. I have to leave work early, I have to leave my usual travel route, I waste gas going way out of my way because its convenient for them. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
