What is the name of your state? CA
My daughter and the father of her two oldest daughters were divorced about 4 or 5 years ago. My ex-son-in-law now has custody of the girls. He lives in AZ. I have no issues with them being with their father, as a matter of fact, quite the opposite as my daughter's life is not so stable. With him I know they are cared for and have a stable, structured environment. When they were living with their mother here in CA I was the one who made sure they got to the pick up site for their visits with their dad. They have been with their father for almost two years now. It's been well over that since I have seen them. I had a very close relationship with them as my daughter is such a flake so I made sure they were cared for when they were here. I have tried to be understanding of concerns the father might have about allowing them to come here for a visit. He's voiced fears of their mother getting them and not returning them. There's no way I would let that happen as I know they are sooooo much better of with him. And furthermore, I'm a retired deputy sheriff so there's no way I'd get involved with something like that! I'm not asking for much, just to have some regular contact with them. Most of the time when I call they (the father or stepmother) don't answer the phone. When they do I'm only allowed to speak with the girls on speaker phone. I don't care if they listen in on the conversations as I have nothing to hide from them but it's very hard to hear them and for them to hear me. Worse, I only have the father's cell phone number as he will not give me the house phone, which would be clearer. Plus, because of the limited minutes on the cell phone he doesn't want me to call before 6 PM. I just want to be able to bring them out for visits once or twice a year and have a regular phone schedule set up so I can talk to them on a regular basis. I haven't even seen a picture of them in over a year and was left off the list of people they send school pictures to. I miss them so very much and want to remain a part of their lives.What is the name of your state?