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#1
08-13-2009, 02:09 PM
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Needing Emergency Custody(Indiana) Wondering if there is anything as a grandparent I can do to get temporary custody of my two year old grandson. My daughter just got out of a violent relationship with her second child's father. There are charges pending. She has lived with us off and on their entire relationship which only lasted a year. Since the last incident where she needed staples in her head and an automatic protection order was issued they have lived with us. (Since May). She has started talking to this guy again and I want to try and prevent her from taking my grandson at least. Both of the children would be better off with us since she obviously has no sense left and has put herself in danger once again! |
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#2
08-13-2009, 02:53 PM
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__________________ ~A 8 a.m. bus-stop conversation~ "So Lil'Blue...Did you like the DVDs I got for you at the library?" "Yes...I did!" "Did you learn any interesting facts about the animals on the movie (Nation Geographic)?" "Yes...I did learn interesting things!" "Would you share with me an interesting fact?" "Wellll....I learned that Naked Mole Rats are WICKED naked!" ~~~~~~~ |
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#3
08-13-2009, 03:59 PM
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| He is aware because child protective services notified him when the past incident occurred. I don't think he is interested in full custody. Of course we would like to be the one's to care for our grandchild, if he was willing too. |
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#4
08-13-2009, 04:15 PM
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if the situation is so precarious, then get social services involved and let them know you are available if they need to pull the children from the home. do you live close to mom and/or dads? |
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#5
08-14-2009, 03:25 PM
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| Yes, we all live in the same town. Dad #2 would not comply with us having custody. (if he even gets a choice) CPS is filing a neglect charge on him since baby was present during the last incident. But now I wonder if we should let them know about our daughters contact with him. I feel she is putting all of their lives at risk. This morning she left with baby for the weekend...said she was going to her friend's. We think she may be staying with him, but no proof yet. Since all of this has happened I regret letting things happen in the past without notifying police or at least giving a sworn statement. He has given her black eyes, put his hands around her neck which left marks and several other notable incidents. I should not have let her make the decision not to press charges! But I also fear losing contact with grandbabies if I said anything. |
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#6
08-14-2009, 04:57 PM
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the children's safety is MORE important then YOU getting to be grandma!!!! |
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#7
08-14-2009, 05:15 PM
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#8
08-17-2009, 10:18 AM
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| Well that is brilliant advice.... For now they are safe and living with us. Unless she decides to leave, I feel I have a small amount of time to prepare. We are notifying CPS today of the broken protection order and I just wanted to know what to expect. So thank you, I appreciate the insightful, knowledgeable and helpful information you have shared. |
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#9
08-17-2009, 10:30 AM
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__________________ * * The information I gave is based on my 7 seconds of research on Google. Review the information yourself to make an informed decision. Communication is KEY - 10 mins of talking now can save you months of headaches later! Masterfully stating the obvious to the oblivious! (Thanks SP!) Tell it like it is! When all else fails, make up a statistic! Gender references shall apply equally to the other gender. I will not correct gender mistakes (unless I want to) |
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#10
08-17-2009, 11:09 AM
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| Removed??????!!!!!!! Is anyone paying attention? They live with us....for now at least. |
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#11
08-17-2009, 11:10 AM
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EDIT: My apologies - I totally misunderstood this. I see now that mom does NOT live with you...
__________________ * * The information I gave is based on my 7 seconds of research on Google. Review the information yourself to make an informed decision. Communication is KEY - 10 mins of talking now can save you months of headaches later! Masterfully stating the obvious to the oblivious! (Thanks SP!) Tell it like it is! When all else fails, make up a statistic! Gender references shall apply equally to the other gender. I will not correct gender mistakes (unless I want to) |
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#12
08-17-2009, 11:17 AM
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| I'm sorry, but I am against grandparents taking there grandchildren in because there daughter is not acting properly. I just think you need to stand up and have her take care of her own kids, no matter what. Support and help to a degree is acceptable, and helpful, but you need to sit her down and tell her CPS is going to remove the kids, and you cannot promise they will be removed to your care. HAVE HER DO IT!!! I bet shes young too. When she gets older and the kids are older she will regret her decision, and will dislike you for making it so easy to take the wrong route. If worse comes to worse, definitely tell CPS that you have a safe home for them if they feel it is necessary, and call the CPS worker each time you feel they are in danger. Then try to trick your daughter into giving her custody to you, then work on getting the children's father's custody with CPS's reports, and arrest record for his abuse of their mother, and her refusal to take steps to protect herself and her children. And that is my opinion. |
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#13
08-17-2009, 11:32 AM
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| 23yr. old Mom and her two children have lived with us since May when the protective order was issued. The father of her second child body slammed the mom on concrete and she received staples in her head. Police filed report and a charge of domestic violence, couple other similar charges and a neglect charge (because baby was present) are now pending. Now that we have found out she is seeing him again I want to prevent her from taking them back around him. Last edited by Slug333; 08-17-2009 at 11:34 AM. |
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#14
08-17-2009, 11:44 AM
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And it may be a fight. Have a lawyer, and trick your daughter into signing over her custody. Maby she doesnt want her kids, and will give them up to you without a fight. (until they have been living with you 10 years, and comes back married to her childs father and want her kids back and is pissed you have taken them.) Or not. |
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#15
08-17-2009, 11:46 AM
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You want to prove to CPS that the mother of the children places them in danger, yet you let the mother live in your house with the children. The can (and likely should) be removed.
__________________ * * The information I gave is based on my 7 seconds of research on Google. Review the information yourself to make an informed decision. Communication is KEY - 10 mins of talking now can save you months of headaches later! Masterfully stating the obvious to the oblivious! (Thanks SP!) Tell it like it is! When all else fails, make up a statistic! Gender references shall apply equally to the other gender. I will not correct gender mistakes (unless I want to) |
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