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[TatumsMa]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ

A year ago I received visitation with my grandaughter after going to court . The court ordered I get 2 weekends a month and summer time. My grandughter was living with Bio dad and adoptive mom. Since the court order they have divorced due to many infidelitys on adoptive moms part. Bio dad wants my grandaughter to come live with him and he is trying to find apartment now for them, but problem is is everytime I try to set up visits she ignores my phone calls or tells me they are busy. Bio dad has tried giving me time when it is his weekends and we are working together to make it work this weekend Bio dad had grandaughter for holiday weekend, adoptive mom found out he let me have grandaughter for sleepover and went balistic, She called and said she was coming for grandaughter and I said I would not give her to her because Bio dad is responsible for her this weekend and if I give her to anyone it will be him. So I put grandaughter in car and took her back to Bio dad. Just received email fro adoptive mom saying she is going to get me for kidnapping and a bunch of other crap. Bio dad backs me but when he does adoptive mom keeps grandaughter from him. my question is who has more rights ove rgrandaughter Biological dad or adoptive mom . I am getting different answers from people and it is so confusing some say when they divorced she does not have as much rights as Bio dad is this true. PLEaSE Help !

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by TatumsMa

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ

A year ago I received visitation with my grandaughter after going to court . The court ordered I get 2 weekends a month and summer time. My grandughter was living with Bio dad and adoptive mom. Since the court order they have divorced due to many infidelitys on adoptive moms part. Bio dad wants my grandaughter to come live with him and he is trying to find apartment now for them, but problem is is everytime I try to set up visits she ignores my phone calls or tells me they are busy. Bio dad has tried giving me time when it is his weekends and we are working together to make it work this weekend Bio dad had grandaughter for holiday weekend, adoptive mom found out he let me have grandaughter for sleepover and went balistic, She called and said she was coming for grandaughter and I said I would not give her to her because Bio dad is responsible for her this weekend and if I give her to anyone it will be him. So I put grandaughter in car and took her back to Bio dad. Just received email fro adoptive mom saying she is going to get me for kidnapping and a bunch of other crap. Bio dad backs me but when he does adoptive mom keeps grandaughter from him. my question is who has more rights ove rgrandaughter Biological dad or adoptive mom . I am getting different answers from people and it is so confusing some say when they divorced she does not have as much rights as Bio dad is this true. PLEaSE Help !

Why are you calling the PARENTS "bio-dad" and "adoptive mom"?? Do you realize how obnoxious this is? They are MOM and DAD. Period.

You have no right to withhold a child from their parent. None.

[CourtClerk]

It seems to me your GP's visitation order is going to have to be modified since the parents of this child have now divorced. If you get half of the month, that leaves 1 weekend per month with each parent and you should NEVER have more time with the child than the child has with her parents.

And I agree with Bay. This is not "adoptive mom" and "bio dad," this is mom and dad.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by CourtClerk

It seems to me your GP's visitation order is going to have to be modified since the parents of this child have now divorced. If you get half of the month, that leaves 1 weekend per month with each parent and you should NEVER have more time with the child than the child has with her parents.

And I agree with Bay. This is not "adoptive mom" and "bio dad," this is mom and dad.

I agree, you are not respecting who is the parents of the child. You are somehow viewing mom as lesser than dad because she adopted the child, and that is not a legally valid position.

You are also going to have to accept that your visitation is not going to continue as two weekends a month. The child's time is going to be divided between the child's two parents, and that means that your visitation is going to end up being very limited, if it continues as a court order at all.

[TatumsMa]

Im sorry Court Clerk I miss typed my court order is for 2 days out of the month not 2 weekends I apologize. And to the other one I was calling it Bio dad and adoptive mom because I was asking a specific question instead of attacking me read the end of my posts I was asking a question I thought that is what this forum is for was to have knowledgable people in the field to answer questions for people who are confused about situations in there lives. No one said it was a forum to be verbally attacked by the senior members. Im sorry if I offended you was not my intentions I was trying to tell you the story and get an answer and I never got an answer to the end of my question I only got verbally attached and jumped on and I did nothing wrong. I was warned not to do this but I thought Id give it a shot If you knew the whole story I dont think you would react the way you do but there is not enough lines in this forum to write everything down and you only get snip its. And FYI I had called the police barracks before I took the child back to the father to make sure what I was doing was correct and the officer told me because of the prior trouble I have had with the MOM I should not have confrontation with her and that because the Dad was responsible for the child I should take her there and let him deal with the confrontational mother . So because they only live a couple miles down the road I took her there to avoid stress on the child. Sorry I bothered anyone wont happen again

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by TatumsMa

Im sorry Court Clerk I miss typed my court order is for 2 days out of the month not 2 weekends I apologize. And to the other one I was calling it Bio dad and adoptive mom because I was asking a specific question instead of attacking me read the end of my posts I was asking a question I thought that is what this forum is for was to have knowledgable people in the field to answer questions for people who are confused about situations in there lives. No one said it was a forum to be verbally attacked by the senior members. Im sorry if I offended you was not my intentions I was trying to tell you the story and get an answer and I never got an answer to the end of my question I only got verbally attached and jumped on and I did nothing wrong. I was warned not to do this but I thought Id give it a shot If you knew the whole story I dont think you would react the way you do but there is not enough lines in this forum to write everything down and you only get snip its. And FYI I had called the police barracks before I took the child back to the father to make sure what I was doing was correct and the officer told me because of the prior trouble I have had with the MOM I should not have confrontation with her and that because the Dad was responsible for the child I should take her there and let him deal with the confrontational mother . So because they only live a couple miles down the road I took her there to avoid stress on the child. Sorry I bothered anyone wont happen again

Oh good God all that emotion because someone told you not to call them Bio Dad and Adoptive mom. Dramatic much?

Sorry, won't happen again? Yeah, we've heard that before. With 22 posts, you already know what this board is about and how people respond so let's not act like you're posting for the first time and got blind sided. If I read your posting Hx, which I will, I'm sure this isn't the first time. So, let's not make any promises you probably won't keep because the next time you have a problem, you'll be running back here - again.

[Nativity]

Originally Posted by TatumsMa

THANK GOD I NEVER LISTENED TO ANY OF YOU, IF I HAD I MAY NOT BE VISITING WITH MY GRANDAUGHTER RIGHT NOW.

And you're asking for advice again because?

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