NY : 17 wants to move with grandmother .

[NeomiJanette]

New York .

I am 17 years old and there has been a lot happening in my home since ive been 13. It isnt like I want to leave home and be with a boyfriend or friend, I think that if I moved in with my grandmother I could get things done. I have been out of school for a year and i've been trying to get my mother to get me discharged from my old high school so I could at least take GED classes. I need glasses and she hasnt gone to get the copy of my medicaid card. On top of all of that there was a situation with my ex step father that caused a lot of problems in my house. My mother never to actions to get an order of protection against him for me. He violated my privacy being a peeping tom and video recording me taking a shower. The only reason he couldnt get arrested is because he took the camera with him when he left the house. And as much as I begged my mother to never speak to him she still has a relationship with him and brings him into the house when we (all the children) are not home. My mother and I havent seen eye to eye in many years but its just getting worse and I cant handle it. I cant live with someone that I know doesnt love me. I am speaking out now because I know it will help me. My mother will not agree with me living with my grandmother so what legal steps could I take and would it be possible to find a way to live with my grandmother.

** my father has half custody of me and he lives close to my grandmother and he is willing to help me however he can . **What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

[cbg]

When will you be 18?

It is very unlikely that the law will permit you to move in with your grandmother without your mother's consent.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by NeomiJanette

New York .

I am 17 years old and there has been a lot happening in my home since ive been 13. It isnt like I want to leave home and be with a boyfriend or friend, I think that if I moved in with my grandmother I could get things done. I have been out of school for a year and i've been trying to get my mother to get me discharged from my old high school so I could at least take GED classes. I need glasses and she hasnt gone to get the copy of my medicaid card. On top of all of that there was a situation with my ex step father that caused a lot of problems in my house. My mother never to actions to get an order of protection against him for me. He violated my privacy being a peeping tom and video recording me taking a shower. The only reason he couldnt get arrested is because he took the camera with him when he left the house. And as much as I begged my mother to never speak to him she still has a relationship with him and brings him into the house when we (all the children) are not home. My mother and I havent seen eye to eye in many years but its just getting worse and I cant handle it. I cant live with someone that I know doesnt love me. I am speaking out now because I know it will help me. My mother will not agree with me living with my grandmother so what legal steps could I take and would it be possible to find a way to live with my grandmother.

** my father has half custody of me and he lives close to my grandmother and he is willing to help me however he can . **What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

A court might allow you to live with your father if he files for primary residential custody. However, unless your mother agrees, there is almost no chance that you would be allowed to live with your grandmother.

[Ohiogal]

When are you going to be 18? And why when all this was going on didn't your father decide to step up and be a parent? Why didn't your dad sue for custody when you became a high school drop out? Why didn't your dad file for a restraining order on your behalf if he has joint legal custody of you? Why didn't your father file for custody when your stepdad videotaped you in the shower? Should I continue?

[BL]

Originally Posted by Ohiogal

When are you going to be 18? And why when all this was going on didn't your father decide to step up and be a parent? Why didn't your dad sue for custody when you became a high school drop out? Why didn't your dad file for a restraining order on your behalf if he has joint legal custody of you? Why didn't your father file for custody when your stepdad videotaped you in the shower? Should I continue?

Good points .

In NY though authorities usually do not get involved if a 17 yr. old leaves home and otherwise has a roof over their head and is being cared for ,and not getting into trouble with the Law.

Although Mom could make a fuss .

As far as the GED , you can wait until you are 18 , or see if you can take a course now for free .