Psychotic grandmother

[Slayer9707]

AZ

My fiancee and I had my fiancee's 6 year old daughter for 6 months. We had temporary guardianship of her until it ended after the 6 months. His mother and step father have had legal guardianship of her since she was 3. (The mother abandoned her at age 2, and father was in the NAVY therefore he was not able to care for her) We have never gotten along with his family and once they realized that his daughter was calling me "Mom" they got all worked up and after letting the 6 year old spend a couple of weeks for summer vacation with that family, they started to brainwash her into living with them again. They used their money to buy her out and convinced her of "missing" her biological mother, who hasn't seen her or talked to her ONCE since leaving her at the age of 2 and left her with her grandfather only to be molested. My fiancee got tired of it and we have no money to fight it so we just left it and let her stay with them to avoid further trouble. Do they have say over her father to actually keep her? she's always acting like she has the upper hand because she has "legal guardianship" I know that parental rights are so much more then grandparents, but what should we do to get her back? Also, she is literally psychotic and an emotional abuser. The grandmother has traumatized my fiancee and she made his daughter self consious about wearing her glasses because she said "she made fun of me and told me i look funny" She has been through enough in her life that she already has psychological problems, but we don't want it to get worse as it did when she was living with the grandmother. HELP!!!

[Zigner]

Originally Posted by Slayer9707

AZ

My fiancee and I had my fiancee's 6 year old daughter for 6 months. We had temporary guardianship of her until it ended after the 6 months. His mother and step father have had legal guardianship of her since she was 3. (The mother abandoned her at age 2, and father was in the NAVY therefore he was not able to care for her) We have never gotten along with his family and once they realized that his daughter was calling me "Mom" they got all worked up and after letting the 6 year old spend a couple of weeks for summer vacation with that family, they started to brainwash her into living with them again. They used their money to buy her out and convinced her of "missing" her biological mother, who hasn't seen her or talked to her ONCE since leaving her at the age of 2 and left her with her grandfather only to be molested. My fiancee got tired of it and we have no money to fight it so we just left it and let her stay with them to avoid further trouble. Do they have say over her father to actually keep her? she's always acting like she has the upper hand because she has "legal guardianship" I know that parental rights are so much more then grandparents, but what should we do to get her back? Also, she is literally psychotic and an emotional abuser. The grandmother has traumatized my fiancee and she made his daughter self consious about wearing her glasses because she said "she made fun of me and told me i look funny" She has been through enough in her life that she already has psychological problems, but we don't want it to get worse as it did when she was living with the grandmother. HELP!!!

There is no "we" - There is no "we" - There is no "we"

YOU are not a party to this. You are just the bedwarmer (legally speaking)

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by Slayer9707

AZ

My fiancee and I had my fiancee's 6 year old daughter for 6 months. We had temporary guardianship of her until it ended after the 6 months. His mother and step father have had legal guardianship of her since she was 3. (The mother abandoned her at age 2, and father was in the NAVY therefore he was not able to care for her) We have never gotten along with his family and once they realized that his daughter was calling me "Mom" they got all worked up and after letting the 6 year old spend a couple of weeks for summer vacation with that family, they started to brainwash her into living with them again. They used their money to buy her out and convinced her of "missing" her biological mother, who hasn't seen her or talked to her ONCE since leaving her at the age of 2 and left her with her grandfather only to be molested. My fiancee got tired of it and we have no money to fight it so we just left it and let her stay with them to avoid further trouble. Do they have say over her father to actually keep her? she's always acting like she has the upper hand because she has "legal guardianship" I know that parental rights are so much more then grandparents, but what should we do to get her back? Also, she is literally psychotic and an emotional abuser. The grandmother has traumatized my fiancee and she made his daughter self consious about wearing her glasses because she said "she made fun of me and told me i look funny" She has been through enough in her life that she already has psychological problems, but we don't want it to get worse as it did when she was living with the grandmother. HELP!!!

so your boyfriend's child gets molested, but boyfriend is too tired to deal with it, so he let it go. , but grandma is a bad legal guardian because she said child looked funny?

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Slayer9707

AZ

My fiancee and I had my fiancee's 6 year old daughter for 6 months. We had temporary guardianship of her until it ended after the 6 months. His mother and step father have had legal guardianship of her since she was 3. (The mother abandoned her at age 2, and father was in the NAVY therefore he was not able to care for her) We have never gotten along with his family and once they realized that his daughter was calling me "Mom" they got all worked up and after letting the 6 year old spend a couple of weeks for summer vacation with that family, they started to brainwash her into living with them again. They used their money to buy her out and convinced her of "missing" her biological mother, who hasn't seen her or talked to her ONCE since leaving her at the age of 2 and left her with her grandfather only to be molested. My fiancee got tired of it and we have no money to fight it so we just left it and let her stay with them to avoid further trouble. Do they have say over her father to actually keep her? she's always acting like she has the upper hand because she has "legal guardianship" I know that parental rights are so much more then grandparents, but what should we do to get her back? Also, she is literally psychotic and an emotional abuser. The grandmother has traumatized my fiancee and she made his daughter self consious about wearing her glasses because she said "she made fun of me and told me i look funny" She has been through enough in her life that she already has psychological problems, but we don't want it to get worse as it did when she was living with the grandmother. HELP!!!

Your fiancee got tired of fighting for his child's wellbeing?

What has he done to fix the situation?

(and in the hopes of preventing a melt-down further down the line, please read the "sticky" at the top of the forum - there's actually a good reason why you've been told there is no "we" - read that sticky and bear it in mind, k?)

[>Charlotte<]

Originally Posted by Slayer9707

they started to brainwash her into living with them again.

Where she's going to live is not the child's decision, so this statement doesn't make sense.

[janM]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

(and in the hopes of preventing a melt-down further down the line, please read the "sticky" at the top of the forum - there's actually a good reason why you've been told there is no "we" - read that sticky and bear it in mind, k?)

That sticky is in the custody forum.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by janM

That sticky is in the custody forum.

I hate when that happens.

Damn teleporter

[Slayer9707]

Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano

so your boyfriend's child gets molested, but boyfriend is too tired to deal with it, so he let it go. , but grandma is a bad legal guardian because she said child looked funny?

NO because she got molested she was sent to live with the emotionally abusive grandmother. he is tired of dealing with his mom because no one can win with her.

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by Slayer9707

NO because she got molested she was sent to live with the emotionally abusive grandmother. he is tired of dealing with his mom because no one can win with her.

So because he is "tired of dealing with her" he is allowing his child to be emotionally abused?

He doesn't deserve to be a father.

[Slayer9707]

First of all sorry everyone I didnt realize there wasa "newbie" post. I'm here looking for advice not to be ridiculed or have my fiancee ridiculed. This place is just wrong. Why is everyone so rude and stuck up?

[Slayer9707]

and no he is not allowing her to be emotionally abused. she has only been there for a couple of weeks. I was hoping to look for answers to head in the right step of getting this all taken care of. Maybe it doesn't make sense I don't know, but I am only 21 yes I will be the step parent. I understand that. does everything have to be so freakin technical? Can't people just be families? geeze.

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by Slayer9707

First of all sorry everyone I didnt realize there wasa "newbie" post. I'm here looking for advice not to be ridiculed or have my fiancee ridiculed. This place is just wrong. Why is everyone so rude and stuck up?

What is "just wrong" is a "father" that KNOWS his child is being abused and does nothing. And since you are legally nothing to this child, YOU do not have standing to do a thing.

If Dad decides to grow some, he can get his own user name and ask his own questions.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by Blue Meanie

If Dad decides to grow some, he can get his own user name and ask his own questions.

ugh! you ask way too much.

[LdiJ]

What your fiance should be doing is filing for custody of his child. However, if he is too "tired" to do that, or is unwilling to fight with his mother, then perhaps the child is better off with grandma.