Wanting to adopt teenage sons child. Please help

[Whitsend]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

My 18 year old son and his girlfriend had a little boy two months ago. My son lost his job right after my grandson was born. My husband and I live near Memphis and my son lives on the other side of the state. We have sent money and I have made trips home to help them out. My mother called me Friday to tell me that my son and his girlfriend gave my grandson to an adoption agency because they felt like it was the best thing for the child. I told my son that if he felt like he needed to do this that my husband and I would adopt my grandson. We are a young couple still in our thirties. We have a 6 year old of our own. I called the adoption agency to tell them that I was the gtrandmother and that I wanted the child. They told me to get an attorney. Is that the only recourse left to me? We are not rich people. Money is tight and everything extra we have had we sent to my son to help him out with my grandson. I am heartbroken and need some advice please.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Whitsend

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

My 18 year old son and his girlfriend had a little boy two months ago. My son lost his job right after my grandson was born. My husband and I live near Memphis and my son lives on the other side of the state. We have sent money and I have made trips home to help them out. My mother called me Friday to tell me that my son and his girlfriend gave my grandson to an adoption agency because they felt like it was the best thing for the child. I told my son that if he felt like he needed to do this that my husband and I would adopt my grandson. We are a young couple still in our thirties. We have a 6 year old of our own. I called the adoption agency to tell them that I was the gtrandmother and that I wanted the child. They told me to get an attorney. Is that the only recourse left to me? We are not rich people. Money is tight and everything extra we have had we sent to my son to help him out with my grandson. I am heartbroken and need some advice please.

Um...weren't you Dad in a past thread?

I have the court transcripts where my ex states who the father is. She actually told the court that I was not the father and named the father of her second child in court.

[Whitsend]

Actually that was my now husband. He is the one who told me about this site so that I might find some advice. I tried to log in with our email address and it told me that there was already a name. I asked my husband and he told me what the log in was. Sorry for any confusion.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Whitsend

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

My 18 year old son and his girlfriend had a little boy two months ago. My son lost his job right after my grandson was born. My husband and I live near Memphis and my son lives on the other side of the state. We have sent money and I have made trips home to help them out. My mother called me Friday to tell me that my son and his girlfriend gave my grandson to an adoption agency because they felt like it was the best thing for the child.

I told my son that if he felt like he needed to do this that my husband and I would adopt my grandson. We are a young couple still in our thirties. We have a 6 year old of our own. I called the adoption agency to tell them that I was the gtrandmother and that I wanted the child. They told me to get an attorney. Is that the only recourse left to me? We are not rich people. Money is tight and everything extra we have had we sent to my son to help him out with my grandson. I am heartbroken and need some advice please.

When was the baby handed to the adoption agency?

At what stage is the adoption? Is the baby in foster care?

Have they already terminated parental rights?

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Whitsend

Actually that was my now husband. He is the one who told me about this site so that I might find some advice. I tried to log in with our email address and it told me that there was already a name. I asked my husband and he told me what the log in was. Sorry for any confusion.

No prob - thanks for clarifying!

[Hisbabygirl77]

Originally Posted by Whitsend

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee

My 18 year old son and his girlfriend had a little boy two months ago. My son lost his job right after my grandson was born. My husband and I live near Memphis and my son lives on the other side of the state. We have sent money and I have made trips home to help them out. My mother called me Friday to tell me that my son and his girlfriend gave my grandson to an adoption agency because they felt like it was the best thing for the child. I told my son that if he felt like he needed to do this that my husband and I would adopt my grandson. We are a young couple still in our thirties. We have a 6 year old of our own. I called the adoption agency to tell them that I was the gtrandmother and that I wanted the child. They told me to get an attorney. Is that the only recourse left to me? We are not rich people. Money is tight and everything extra we have had we sent to my son to help him out with my grandson. I am heartbroken and need some advice please.

I am going to throw this out there. Why did the son not tell you before he gave child to adoption agency? On a personal note have you thought about how difficult it will be for you teenage son to see his "son/brother" if you adopt him? Maybe that is why he chose adoption agency. Now legally I am assuming your son just decided to have his child adopted...was he legally found to be the father? Did he sign paperwork or just the mother? And yes really you should have a lawyer it can be complicated.

[ecmst12]

Adoptions are usually complicated legal processes and lawyers are needed. And money.