wanting to visit my grandson

[grandmainwaitin]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY



all i want is to be able to spend time with my grandson who is only 7 weeks old. im not wanting custody just visitation. i have seen him maybe 4 times since he was born. his mother doesnt like me. and she holds all the cards. my son, who is the father, saids i can see him but she tells me no

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by grandmainwaitin

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY



all i want is to be able to spend time with my grandson who is only 7 weeks old. im not wanting custody just visitation. i have seen him maybe 4 times since he was born. his mother doesnt like me. and she holds all the cards. my son, who is the father, saids i can see him but she tells me no

then your issue is with your son.

is your son and the mom married? are they together? separated?

Originally Posted by grandmainwaitin

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY



all i want is to be able to spend time with my grandson who is only 7 weeks old. im not wanting custody just visitation. i have seen him maybe 4 times since he was born. his mother doesnt like me. and she holds all the cards. my son, who is the father, saids i can see him but she tells me no

unless mom can prove you are a danger to the child, you can certainly see him on your son's time once he gets visitation.

[happybug]

If you were to spend tens of thousands of dollars on a GPV suit, the chances of you winning are slim to none. IF you did win, the most time you could expect to be awarded would be a couple of hours once a month. You have seen your Grandchild 4 times in 7 weeks, where is the problem? How involved did you expect to be? How often did you visit your son and his wife before she had the baby? If you only saw them 1 or two times a month when they were a couple you can't expect your DIL is going to suddenly want you visiting more often. Now that she has a new baby her time is more limited than before the baby arrived. If you want a relationship with the baby, you will have to make nice with BOTH the parents.

Also, if you did happen to win a GPV suit, you can expect your DIL and son to HATE you for the rest of their lives. You would put an incredible amount of emotional and financial stress on their family and you could never make that right. You would not get 1 second beyond your court ordered time. You would never be included in Birthdays', Holidays or milestone events. If you lost, you would never lay eyes on them again.

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by michellesguy

unless mom can prove you are a danger to the child, you can certainly see him on your son's time once he gets visitation.

Shut up Kelly.

[Antigone*of*Greece]

Originally Posted by Blue Meanie

Shut up Kelly.

Did you K-dar go off the mark

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by grandmainwaitin

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY



all i want is to be able to spend time with my grandson who is only 7 weeks old. im not wanting custody just visitation. i have seen him maybe 4 times since he was born. his mother doesnt like me. and she holds all the cards. my son, who is the father, saids i can see him but she tells me no

The baby is SEVEN weeks old and you are willing to file a law suit that will cost 20 or 30 THOUSAND dollars, because you have ONLY seen him/her FOUR times?? You do realize that such a suit probably won't allow for more visitation than you are already getting? If that?

Stop being so greedy and be thankful that you have VERY reasonable time with your GC.

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by Wirelessany1

Did you K-dar go off the mark

Ohhhh yeahhh...(insert the Kool-Aid guy here).

[frylover]

Good grief, lady. You've seen this child 4 times in only 7 weeks and this isn't enough for you? How often do you think you should get to see him?

Cut mom some slack. She's almost definitlely exhausted, quite likely emotional and possibly depressed. Back off and give her some time. If you aren't pushy and demanding, you might fare better.

I speak from experience....as the daughter in law!

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by frylover

Good grief, lady. You've seen this child 4 times in only 7 weeks and this isn't enough for you? How often do you think you should get to see him?

Cut mom some slack. She's almost definitlely exhausted, quite likely emotional and possibly depressed. Back off and give her some time. If you aren't pushy and demanding, you might fare better.

I speak from experience....as the daughter in law!

ditto! and if you really want to get in with mom's good graces, show up with cooked food, and cleaning supplies, and get to work. i'd let someone like that come see the baby every day.

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano

ditto! and if you really want to get in with mom's good graces, show up with cooked food, and cleaning supplies, and get to work. i'd let someone like that come see the baby every day.

My Mom did this for all us girls while we were in the hospital having our children. It is REALLY nice to come home to a spotless home after childbirth.

Yeah Blue's Mom!!

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by Blue Meanie

My Mom did this for all us girls while we were in the hospital having our children. It is REALLY nice to come home to a spotless home after childbirth.

Yeah Blue's Mom!!

i'm so jealous. i've had four kids and NO ONE did this for me!! *stomps feet*

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano

i'm so jealous. i've had four kids and NO ONE did this for me!! *stomps feet*

Me neither. There was a sink full of dishes for me too

[frylover]

Me neither!

My next door neighbor cut our grass, though. Not that big of a help to ME, but still nice.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by Rushia

Me neither. There was a sink full of dishes for me too

the day before i went into labor with my third child (his first), my husband was shocked to find out i'd be out of commission for a few days. he was told by a few "friends" to have some prepared meals in the freezer so he could have something to eat. he asked me to get them prepared.