What can we do?

[Lori1017]

We live in Pennsylvania and our son is divorced with two children. They lived with us until they split up and we became the "custody house" every other weekend. Our son fell behind in child support and his license was suspended so he doesn't see his children and to bring them for us to see also. We would pick them up every so often and that was working out for us. Now, our ex-daughter-in-law is refusing us to see them or talk to them unless we go through our son first. We can see her point in wanting him to spend time with them and supporting them so she is punishing us because of him, but we can't make him change especially now with not being able to drive. We used to have fun with them and help support them, but now we are not since she feels she has no obligation to us unless we go through their father. What do we do now since it's breaking our hearts?

[Hot Topic]

There's nothing you can do. If your son really wanted you to see your grandkids, he'd hire a taxi or perhaps occasionally ask a friend to give them a ride. There's no bus to take he and the grandkids to your area? Don't blame the entire situation on the ex-daughter-in-law. Your son has been a less than stellar parent.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Lori1017

We live in Pennsylvania and our son is divorced with two children. They lived with us until they split up and we became the "custody house" every other weekend. Our son fell behind in child support and his license was suspended so he doesn't see his children and to bring them for us to see also. We would pick them up every so often and that was working out for us. Now, our ex-daughter-in-law is refusing us to see them or talk to them unless we go through our son first. We can see her point in wanting him to spend time with them and supporting them so she is punishing us because of him, but we can't make him change especially now with not being able to drive. We used to have fun with them and help support them, but now we are not since she feels she has no obligation to us unless we go through their father. What do we do now since it's breaking our hearts?

She is not punishing you. She is hoping that you will force/coerce your son into stepping up to the plate and being a father. She is also trying to avoid the precendent of you using HIS visitation.

What about you driving your son to pick up his children?