For years, my wife has been stealing patient info

[bloodly1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California

Somehow I knew something was much more wrong with my wife. I wish I had known how serious Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Psychopathic tendencies is and I wish I had walked away sooner. But to my point.

Among other issues, my wife is a kleptomaniac and a serious accumulator(pack rat). She has, for reasons I can't imagine, taken a shine to taking medical records, patient information, doctor's orders, hospital supplies and equipment bringing them home and stacking them up in a room that we had to convert into her own private closet. Stacked from the bottom to the ceiling are things no one needs to have. Why would someone so intelligent steal several packages of colostomy bags? Why? Well... even more disturbing is the mountainous stacks of orders, patient info, records, patient meds.

What am I to do with this stuff. It contains information about everything under the sun. Names, addresses, medical inflictions, diagnosis's, assessments, even employee work evaluations... very private stuff.

If I take it to the hospital where she works? Will I be in trouble? Should I report this to the California Nursing Board? Speaking from a husband that has been fiscally and emotionally raped with showing no signs of remorse whatsoever... what would be the most effective way of striking back at the beast I used to call 'my wife'?

Please don't be angry with me for sounding vindictive. Along with giving me an STD and telling people for years that I've been beating her, there are things she's done behind my back that would leave you breathless. So I beg of you not to judge me harshly. Thanks for your help.

[bloodly1]

I neglected to mention. My wife is an RN in California and has recently moved up to the position of Telemetry Nurse Manager and will be salaried at just under $200,000 yearly. It's unnerving how someone so professionally competent could be so screwed up sociologically.

[Ozark_Sophist]

Report her to (A) the hospital, (B) police department, (C) state regulatory board...

[CourtClerk]

Box the stuff up, put it in the back of your car and have a talk with hospital administration. Be as candid as you possibly can. You didn't steal the stuff, so I don't imagine you being held responsible for it, but you now know it's there... do something about it.

[bloodly1]

I've been told that I am to be detained and arrested should I come to the hospital. Sadly, behind my back for years she has been telling people I am violent. It's taken her friends that long to figure out the truth. Going to the hospital is a scary thought to me. But the State Regulatory Board or maybe the California Nursing Board could help me. Thank you for your suggestions.

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by bloodly1

I've been told that I am to be detained and arrested should I come to the hospital. Sadly, behind my back for years she has been telling people I am violent. It's taken her friends that long to figure out the truth. Going to the hospital is a scary thought to me. But the State Regulatory Board or maybe the California Nursing Board could help me. Thank you for your suggestions.

Is there a restraining order against you? If not, you are free to roam where ever you please unless Administration has specifically banned you from the premises.

Why not call and make an appointment? Then you can say you are there on business. I think her job would be interested in knowing that patient information is outside of that hospital. It puts them at a significant risk.

[bloodly1]

Yes... she filed(without any provocation from myself and wholly unwarranted) an EPO and had her cop friend call me on the phone to tell me I've been served. It's my understanding that they have to physically make contact with me. But I have yet to be served. My father called and they have it on record that I have been, although I am quite sure I would remember such an event. I don't dare go to the hospital though...

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by bloodly1

Yes... she filed(without any provocation from myself and wholly unwarranted) an EPO and had her cop friend call me on the phone to tell me I've been served. It's my understanding that they have to physically make contact with me. But I have yet to be served. My father called and they have it on record that I have been, although I am quite sure I would remember such an event. I don't dare go to the hospital though...

I happen to know California law quite well, so I'm gonna go out on a limb and tell you that until you've been SERVED with a DV-100, there is NO restraining order. Now, you can call your local courthouse to confirm that there hasn't been one (with proof of service filed, but I would suggest that you contact the hospital.

You never know, if you talk to Administration, they may be able to send someone to pick up the stuff. Hospitals have couriers.

[ecmst12]

Box the stuff up and SHIP it back to the hospital. And for god's sake, don't read other people's medical records.

[bloodly1]

I have zero desire to read the information. Although I did rifle through it and found a "lust me forever" and "love me forever" spell that she paid 50 bucks a piece for. She wanted some dr to love her uncontrollably forever... absolutely twisted.

The other side of me thinks that keeping her content with her job would yield her the unkindest cut of all... alimony to me.

She emptied all the accounts, took all I had in my safe, and left me with nothing. She's been gone almost a month without so much as a goodbye.

She deserves to get screwed. In fact, I'm doing a disservice to the public if I don't turn her in. I don't know what she's capable of as far as retaliation. When I divulged some information to her parents the day she left. The next day while I was gone, she busted the door down(actually split the entire threshold), got into my safe and stole my gun. THEN, she filed the emergency protection order. Add crazy wife claiming she's threatened by psycho husband + stolen gun + emergency protection order = poor guy that could get shot at any given moment leaving a crazy chick feeling justified for doing so.

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Might I suggest an attorney at this point contact the hospital to get their items back to them.

[momm2500]

contact an attorney immediately and let him contact the hospital. you will need some type of protection since all this information is out there about you.

[bloodly1]

I went to an attorney. My wife took all the money from all accounts. I spent my last $125 to find out that I need $3200 before they will lift a finger. My lawyer told me not to turn the stuff in because if my wife loses her job, it would only make things worse for me.

I don't know what to think anymore. I'm scared to death of my wife.

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by bloodly1

I went to an attorney. My wife took all the money from all accounts. I spent my last $125 to find out that I need $3200 before they will lift a finger. My lawyer told me not to turn the stuff in because if my wife loses her job, it would only make things worse for me.

I don't know what to think anymore. I'm scared to death of my wife.

Then file for divorce yourself. You need to get off your pity pot and do something or do nothing at all. The choice is yours. Other than that, all this typing is useless. This is NOT a support group.

[Zigner]

This is really being made more complicated than it needs to be.
OP needs to call the police.