
Originally Posted by
Eleanor I believe I also have been a victim of marriage fraud.
I was married in 2001 to what I thought was the most wonderful man in the world. Our daughter was born in 2002. My husband was so loving and caring, I couldn't have wished for more.
Issuance of his green card was held up because of 9/11 and the changes that immigration implemented afterwards, then again because our file was accidently sent to Arizona.
Finally, he got his green card in 2004.
We even bought a house in 2005. Life was perfect so I thought.
Shortly after we bought the house he finally passed his driving test. My parents gave him their old car as they were buying a new one so that I didn't have to transport him to and from work every day, which I had been doing for the past 4 years.
As soon as he got the car, his attitude changed completely.
Without going into a lot of detail, the situation is just unbearable.
I feel so betrayed and afraid. I worry he might go back to his country and try to take our daughter, I worry that if I file for divorce I won't be able to enforce child support. I worry that I will lose the house. I have been home with our daughter since she was born and have no family to help me with her while I work. I can't do the work I was doing before due to an injury.
I racked up all my credit cards to pay bills because he quit his second job soon after he got the car.
My life is a mess.
To top things off, I found out he had been e-mailing his ex girlfriend about a year after our daughter was born telling her that he was going to accomplish what he had come here to do and that he still felt the same towards her, that he wanted to see her again.
He went back to his country just over a year ago to visit with his family, but now I wonder if he went to meet up with her again. I have no proof of this though I strongly suspect.
I honestly believed he loved me and he kept up the deception soooo well. Now he wants nothing to do with me and doesn't even show any interest in our daughter which is the hardest thing for me to deal with. I can't stand to think that she will be the biggest victim of all.
What can I do to protect myself and my daughter?
I would like him to be punished for what he did but my main concern is keeping what is left of my life together.
I would also like to warn anyone else considering marrying a foreigner to think long and hard before doing so.