used for citizenship

[misskatt]

What is the name of your state? AZ A close friend met a foreign citizen online, met her twice, brought her here on a fiance visa and then married her. She brought a child with her. They lived together for a few months before problems began (she has a drinking/temper & spending problem). She moved out after a few months and got an apt (and a boyfriend)... and they're been apart ever since. She's ruining his credit: he bought her a new car and she's late making payments so it almost got repossessed (he has a budget 1993 car, paid off). Her apt. is also leased in his name (and is more expensive and nicer than his). About the only time he sees her is when she drops off her kid for him to babysit. He's afraid if he reports her, and INS discovers they've been living apart for most of the 2 years she's been here, he'll get in trouble. He's a MUCH too trusting (and passive type) guy, very honest, GREAT father, who got (and is still being) used. He's worried if she becomes a citizen and then divorces HIM, she'll get alimony and he already pays child support for his 3 kids... any advice??? P.S. He is considering bankrupcy to help alleviate some of his huge debt of the past few years, but she's afraid it will "hurt" her status! Would it?

 

[Aloha2000]

difficult to believe

why won't he get divorced at this time and show every proof that this was a fraudelent marriage on her side, since she started living somethere else and committing adultery right away (has she recieved her permanent residency card already)?

If this gentleman is indeed the way this post describes him (with no feelings of revenge, with no abuse issues against someone who is obviously abusing him), I wish him all the best; he should get divorced (or better yet, annul the marriage) and report it immediatly to the INS. Good luck! No one deserves to be treated and taken advantage in this way!

 

[misskatt]

Yes, he's just as I described him... I've known him for over 15 years and his problem is that he's too "trusting" of everybody; he's been taken advantage of before, just not to this extent! The only reason he's even mentioned the word divorce is that lately she's started to become verbally ugly to him and to insult him, and I guess even he has his limits. The only time anything got physical was when she was drinking about a month after moving in/getting married, and she started throwing things at him (when he said something about how much she was drinking every day). He left right away and then later asked her to move out, which she did. We're (his friends) just hoping that one of these days he'll get fed up enough to file the papers and not be afraid that he'll get in trouble with the INS because he lied about them living together (when they weren't). He knows he shouldn't have, but in his mind he thought there was a chance of them getting back together because she was in AA... but she's drinking again and he knows that they won't be getting back together because of this. This is just a perfect reason why people should NEVER marry someone they meet online (whether in this country or not) until they've gotten to know them IN PERSON, over a period of time... it's easy to fool someone when the relationship is at a distance and when chemistry takes over common sense. He's already said that the few good times was not worth the rest of it.