Can I sue for harassment?

[AnthonyG]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania

Good evening everyone. Let me start by saying, I know that PA is an "At will" state.
However, I am in sales. I am a male.
My boss is a female.
I have a co worker who is a female, AND, is good friends with the boss outside of work. There is no question that I am treated very differently by my boss than other coworkers (some are male, some are female). Yes, she absolutely dislikes me for some reason. Before you read below, let me say that all the claims I make are documented.
One quarter, I didn't make my sales quota. I was written up.
The same quarter, my female co worker didn't hit her sales quota either. She was NOT written up. There are other documented instances where I was reprimanded for things that my female coworker was NOT reprimanded for.
I also have documented proof that my boss has set me up to fail by lying to me, therefore hindering my ability to hit my sales goals. Keeping in mind, I was written up for not hitting my sales goals!
My coworkers joke that when I walk into the same room, her mood totally changes.
So I decided to ask her for a sit down so we can air out whatever her problems are. She declined.
I know I'm on borrowed time with my company. I have 3 young children, and I am the main source of income. I have lost sleep over this. This is absolutely affecting my home life. I come home and treat my family poorly because of my stress. I've been to my doctor to get Ambien to help me sleep. This is killing me.
If I quit due to unbearable work conditions, can I still make a claim for unemployment? I currently make way more than what unemployment pays. So the cut in pay will definitely affect things at home. Also, if I quit, can I sue for harassment? Or should I stick around and wait until I'm fired? Thank you in advance for your answers.

[ecmst12]

It is not illegal for you to be treated differently simply because the boss doesn't like you. If she likes every other person, regardless of gender, then there is no evidence that there is any ILLEGAL harassment going on.

[commentator]

Do not quit. She is not doing anything to you for which I can see that you might have a case of any kind. She is just not being nice to you. She has declined your offer to sit down and have a talk about improving your relationship. Continue to ask her at regular intervals for this sort of meeting. Be careful to document that you have asked her and the date you did this.

Nobody can sue anybody for writing them up. If you quit because you are not being treated fairly, you are probably out of luck, as unemployment will say that you voluntarily quit by your choice. The things you describe are a long long way from a really unbearable work situation. However, if she fires you , she would have to prove that she had a good job related reason to terminate you, or you could get your unemployment benefits. Performance issues are not easy to prove as misconduct. You'd have a pretty good chance of being approved, if she does not have a good misconduct reason to terminate you. Do your job to the best of your ability. That's all you can do. As you've noted, unemployment is a lot less money than you can make working. Ride the pony as far as it will take you.

So try to hang in there, until you find another job. Be looking. As you suspect, it may not be too long before she actually does fire you, and yes, it is stressful to work in a situation like this. Since she can't really do anything to you except stress you out, refuse to give her this power. Chose NOT to come home and take this out on your family. You are the one who has this choice. No employer is FORCED to treat you well or like you or be fair with you. Smile, laugh, try to enjoy your work, and when she is unhappy, or lies to you or yells at you or writes you up, let her know you are doing the very best job you can, and that you don't know what else you can do to make her happy. But don't make her happy by quitting!

[ecmst12]

Do get some therapy to help you stop taking your bad work situation out on your family. That's not going to help ANYONE. And start looking for a new job.