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Colorado
I was in a mediation/training type setting yesterday, when the mediator gave us some paper with "positive" words on it (i.e. Hard Worker, Achiever, etc.) and told us to pick either two of those items about each person in the room and write their names on the back, fold them & give them to him. He said we could write one negative if we wished, but we had to at least write one positive. We could make up our own words if we liked, as well.
There's much about this whole story, however, we broke for lunch and when we came back, our Supervisor said that she didn't understand that you could write negatives or make up your own words and so she just used the words on the list (which were all positive). I didn't announce that to anyone, but I didn't write any negatives either. I didn't think that was the place for that.
These words were posted on each individual's sheet (flip chart size) and put on the walls. Each person had to go and turn theirs over one person at a time. I had two negatives..."untrustworthy" and "selfish". My boss had "Non-communicator". The rest were all positive. Not only did we have to turn them over, we had to read them out loud. I HIGHLY RESENT this! I was humiliated and flabbergasted at these words. I had to hang on the rest of the day with those charts facing me - and mine was the worst - had my name on this sheet of paper for all to see.
I have a stellar background, which can be proven. I was so humiliated, I could not go to work today and face these people. I don't know who wrote these words for sure, but it doesn't matter. I've never been in a course like this before in my life. I resent that my character was smeared right there - public flogging. The Mediator doesn't even know me. I called my HQs and briefed them on this, and feel forced to ask for a downgraded transfer (which HQs is telling me they don't want me to take). They are talking about all of this, but it looks like the ball will be in my court as far as the transfer.
Is this a legal case? I would like to get my grade back as I'm going to lose about $400 a month because of this downgrade.
Colorado
I was in a mediation/training type setting yesterday, when the mediator gave us some paper with "positive" words on it (i.e. Hard Worker, Achiever, etc.) and told us to pick either two of those items about each person in the room and write their names on the back, fold them & give them to him. He said we could write one negative if we wished, but we had to at least write one positive. We could make up our own words if we liked, as well.
There's much about this whole story, however, we broke for lunch and when we came back, our Supervisor said that she didn't understand that you could write negatives or make up your own words and so she just used the words on the list (which were all positive). I didn't announce that to anyone, but I didn't write any negatives either. I didn't think that was the place for that.
These words were posted on each individual's sheet (flip chart size) and put on the walls. Each person had to go and turn theirs over one person at a time. I had two negatives..."untrustworthy" and "selfish". My boss had "Non-communicator". The rest were all positive. Not only did we have to turn them over, we had to read them out loud. I HIGHLY RESENT this! I was humiliated and flabbergasted at these words. I had to hang on the rest of the day with those charts facing me - and mine was the worst - had my name on this sheet of paper for all to see.
I have a stellar background, which can be proven. I was so humiliated, I could not go to work today and face these people. I don't know who wrote these words for sure, but it doesn't matter. I've never been in a course like this before in my life. I resent that my character was smeared right there - public flogging. The Mediator doesn't even know me. I called my HQs and briefed them on this, and feel forced to ask for a downgraded transfer (which HQs is telling me they don't want me to take). They are talking about all of this, but it looks like the ball will be in my court as far as the transfer.
Is this a legal case? I would like to get my grade back as I'm going to lose about $400 a month because of this downgrade.
