What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY
I have been working at this company for almost two years. I came in as a temporary worker and was hired by the company after four months. I was presented with a very generous salary offer relative to the job that I am doing. At the time I thought nothing of it and thought how lucky I was. But the man who got me the job is the problem. This man is a financial controller of my division so he is in a very powerful position. I believe he may have given me the job for the wrong reasons.
At first I was so thankful of him for getting me this job that I really had high regards for him. He was my mentor and in some ways my savior because I was struggling big time when I got this job. So at first, we were friendly. But now, his true colors have been showing more and more and the job has become a total nightmare. He can be very rude sometimes and has thrown paperwork at me, snatched paperwork out of my hands. Other times I brought him paperwork for him to sign and he would refuse to sign them, telling me to come back tomorrow and for no reason at all. But that is not what I have the most issues with. I have also caught him looking at my physical private areas on occasion and I have caught him looking at me in an appropriate manner more than a few times. Sometimes I may be having conversation at my cubicle with another coworker and he walks by and turns around and looks at us talking, in a way that is very creepy. Other times he has sneaked behind me and stares at my computer as if he is checking on me. He is not even my direct supervisor, so he has no business checking on me.
There has also been one occasion we were out at a local bar for happy hour and he follows me in the restroom and had that crazy look in his eye, almost like he thought I was drunk enough so he could do something. The guy is absolutely sick, trust me.
By the way, I am a single male, this guy is married.
I have considered reporting him to HR, but our company’s HR dpt is very bizarre and they are very closely knit to the people that have been with the company longer, such as him. At the moment, the guy is not even talking to me and he seems to go out of his way to show me that he is ignoring me for some reason, which would be good for me, but I still catch him looking over and acting all creepy every now and then. What should I do? I am obviously being harassed by this man in more ways than one. I have considered quitting but I am worried they will deny me unemployment and that would hurt me too much financially. I really feel like I should sue, but I am not sure if I have a strong enough case since I don’t have willing witnesses. I have mentioned some (but not all, as I am embarrassed about mentioning the sexual harassment issues) of his actions to a couple of coworkers, but they always come to his defense. So what do I do?
I have been working at this company for almost two years. I came in as a temporary worker and was hired by the company after four months. I was presented with a very generous salary offer relative to the job that I am doing. At the time I thought nothing of it and thought how lucky I was. But the man who got me the job is the problem. This man is a financial controller of my division so he is in a very powerful position. I believe he may have given me the job for the wrong reasons.
At first I was so thankful of him for getting me this job that I really had high regards for him. He was my mentor and in some ways my savior because I was struggling big time when I got this job. So at first, we were friendly. But now, his true colors have been showing more and more and the job has become a total nightmare. He can be very rude sometimes and has thrown paperwork at me, snatched paperwork out of my hands. Other times I brought him paperwork for him to sign and he would refuse to sign them, telling me to come back tomorrow and for no reason at all. But that is not what I have the most issues with. I have also caught him looking at my physical private areas on occasion and I have caught him looking at me in an appropriate manner more than a few times. Sometimes I may be having conversation at my cubicle with another coworker and he walks by and turns around and looks at us talking, in a way that is very creepy. Other times he has sneaked behind me and stares at my computer as if he is checking on me. He is not even my direct supervisor, so he has no business checking on me.
There has also been one occasion we were out at a local bar for happy hour and he follows me in the restroom and had that crazy look in his eye, almost like he thought I was drunk enough so he could do something. The guy is absolutely sick, trust me.
By the way, I am a single male, this guy is married.
I have considered reporting him to HR, but our company’s HR dpt is very bizarre and they are very closely knit to the people that have been with the company longer, such as him. At the moment, the guy is not even talking to me and he seems to go out of his way to show me that he is ignoring me for some reason, which would be good for me, but I still catch him looking over and acting all creepy every now and then. What should I do? I am obviously being harassed by this man in more ways than one. I have considered quitting but I am worried they will deny me unemployment and that would hurt me too much financially. I really feel like I should sue, but I am not sure if I have a strong enough case since I don’t have willing witnesses. I have mentioned some (but not all, as I am embarrassed about mentioning the sexual harassment issues) of his actions to a couple of coworkers, but they always come to his defense. So what do I do?
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