16yo kicked out by Mother and been living with us...

[marifelg]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Nevada
What is the legal way of helping this 16 year old boy. This is my son's friend. His mom doesn't work at all and according to this boy she gambles for a living. She will lots of times pawn things in the house. They always argue and yells at each other. One time the boy got bored and drove his mom's car with another friend without her approval and without a license. He got pulled over, informed his mom and she got a ticket of $1600 unless the boy gets a permit and it gets cut in half and he gets a license and it transferred to him. One day, they stopped in a casino and the boy waited in the car. Time went by the mom is still inside and the boy gets mad for waiting so long, so he kicked the windshield not knowing it will break, but it did. Mom came out and causes this for another argument. She was so mad and told him to leave... just leave and don't come back. So he left and lived in few friends and ended up at our house. Since about 2nd week of December 2011 he's been living with us. We're a family of 5, and living paycheck to paycheck also. I met the mom in January 2012 and thanked me for taking in his son. But she never took him back. He's still living with us. I asked him to get his Social security card and Birth Certificate so I can enroll him in high school. His mom finally gave it to him. I will take him on monday and try to enroll him back to high school. Will it be safe for him to apply for like Food stamp, etc...to help us even a little bit? I just don't want the county or anybody taking him or taking over. He's been part of our family... if these will happen and affects this child, we rather not ask for help. This is a good young adult and has a lot of plans for his future. Our family wants to help him the best we can, but we don't have much. We're not qualified for welfare. Can he apply for welfare while living with us? What else can we do to help this young boy?

 

[commentator]

He is not a "good young adult." He is a juvenile and from the sound of it, a bad actor who blames everything on his mother, when, of course he's talking to you. The first time the police come to your house, it'll be all your fault, bet on it.. Call CPS and turn him over, see about getting yourselves into a foster care situation if you wish, but right now, you'll be very quickly educated if you try to go get public assistance because he's moved in with you. You're about to be quickly educated about this young fellow anyway.

 

[stealth2]

Where's Dad?

As soon as someone starts asking for money to help support the kid (be it from his parent/ss or the state), you can expect Mom to come dragging kiddo home. And I seriously doubt you will be able to enroll him in school.

 

[CdwJava]

If you take him in, and mom does not object, then he will likely be your financial responsibility. The state will not start paying for him if there is a parent that can do the job. You can always ASK at the welfare office, but it might send up some red flags and it could result in child services getting involved.

Understand that you seem to know what you know about mom based solely on what HE tells you. It may not be the entire truth, so keep that in mind.

I have a boy living under my roof with dad's permission. We don't get aid for him, I don't get to claim him as a dependent, and I, too, live paycheck to paycheck. The only thing that dad maintains is Medi-Cal so that he has medical insurance. Without that, we might have to seek another route. But, I cannot get welfare for him as he is not an emancipated minor and is a dependent of someone else.

You either do this out of the goodness of your heart, ask mom for some financial assistance, or say you are sorry and send him home.

 

[Just Blue]

If you take him in, and mom does not object, then he will likely be your financial responsibility. The state will not start paying for him if there is a parent that can do the job. You can always ASK at the welfare office, but it might send up some red flags and it could result in child services getting involved.

Understand that you seem to know what you know about mom based solely on what HE tells you. It may not be the entire truth, so keep that in mind.

I have a boy living under my roof with dad's permission. We don't get aid for him, I don't get to claim him as a dependent, and I, too, live paycheck to paycheck. The only thing that dad maintains is Medi-Cal so that he has medical insurance. Without that, we might have to seek another route. But, I cannot get welfare for him as he is not an emancipated minor and is a dependent of someone else.

You either do this out of the goodness of your heart, ask mom for some financial assistance, or say you are sorry and send him home.

As always...The Voice Of Reason. Thanks Carl.

 

[justalayman]

This is a good young adult

Oh pulleez.

One time the boy got bored and drove his mom's car with another friend without her approval and without a license.

boy gets mad for waiting so long, so he kicked the windshield not knowing it will break, but it did

this is am immature little boy not anywhere near adulthood, neither chronologically nor based on maturity.

Ya got a couple choices:

tell him to go home

let him live with you, at your cost but realize that you do not have any legal authority concerning the boy so you registering him for school, taking him to the doctor, and myriad other needs are not possible. Do you plan on paying his medical expenses? Are you going to bail him out of jail should he get arrested (and yes, based on what you have stated, it is likely)?

contact CPS and let them deal with the situation


So, which one is it?

 

[NellieBly]

By the way, it is illegal for his mother to toss him out.

 

[CdwJava]

By the way, it is illegal for his mother to toss him out.

It is illegal for mom to fail to provide. But, if he is being provided for there's not a crime here.

Should the OP decide NOT to care for the child, and mother also opts not to, THEN she could potentially b charged.

 

[xylene]

You can just as soon 'make a living' gambling as you can by doing drugs...

 

[FarmerJ]

Have you at least called your county to learn what would be involved in becoming a licensed foster care provider , I would say that may be worth looking into. So this way if something does come up your already established as a place he can be at should the county become further involved.