17 Ohio abusive parents

[emotion5ickne55]

What is the name of your state? Ohio

I'm a 17-yr-old female from cleveland. my parents have been physically and mentally abusive for my entire life. my school has called social workers on them for physical abuse on at least 2 different occasions, and one instance was in the past few months when i talked to the guidance counselor about college, but she became distracted due to the fresh scab on my face. my parents' reasoning for their physical and mental abuse is that i supposedly defy them and do not give them respect. yet, they know that physical abuse doesn't work since they've been doing it for as long as i remember, the first big instance i remember would be when i was younger than preschool age, and my mom was mad that i couldn't learn the alphabet so she sent me outside in the middle of winter, without any clothes on. these days, she often flies off the handle over incredibly random things. i have 100% confidence that she has at least one psychiatric disorder. my father is a bit more level-headed, but refuses to be separated from my mother in any way, so he sides with her 90% of the time. they took my cell phone, they tapped the home phone line, and do not allow me to have friends, they find reasons to hate every single person i come in contact with. it's usually for silly things, like their parents being divorced, or they don't have a 4.0 gpa. i am currently in a relationship with a 24 year old man i met at work, and i know it may sound extreme, but he isn't the average 24 year old. he is a chef at a local restaurant and has his own apartment, own car, etc. he truly does care for me, he writes me letters constantly and even if he is living in a fantasy world, i know that a life with him for the few months before college would be a million time sbetter than staying at home. i've read up on ohio, and i learned that there are no legal emancipation laws. what are my options? can my boyfriend become my "foster parent"? i will be finished with high school on may 13, but won't turn 18 until june 24. i will stay w/ my parents until may 13 b/c i attend a private school which i couldn't afford on my own, and i need to graduate, but i want to know if i can move in with my boyfriend the night of may 13, when i would still be 17. can my parents do anything about this? will the courts simply dismiss the case if they try to charge my boyfriend with anything, since i'll be 18 in a month and a week after moving out? i dont' know if my parents will be for or against this, despite all the unrest in my house, since they have an obsession with control. my younger sister is verbally abusive and my younger brother is a wrestler and uses that to his advantage when he puts me in headlocks and beats me up over stupid things, like when he wants the computer when i'm on it. i can't believe how awful my life is, but i'm hoping there's a light at the end of the tunnel. please, someone, tell me what i can do!

[thelizzy]

I can tell you straight up, as a 23 year old married to a 24 year old that a 24 year old guy who works at a restaurant and has an apartment and car isn't really that amazing, sweetie. Also, a 24 year old in a relationship with someone who is in high school is SICK. He needs to find a woman his own wage, not a young woman getting ready to enter the real world.

No, he cannot become your foster parent. By the time you get the permission to be emancipated (which you probably wouldn't, because you have to be able to support yourself TOTALLY without ANYONE's help, including your BF), you will be 18.

Sorry.

[badapple40]

"Thats what I love about high school girls.... the older I get... they stay the same age." Dazed and Confused, Universal Studios (1993)

[emotion5ickne55]

haha i never said i thought he was amazing in the sense that he's a chef or whatever... what i meant was, he's obviously not as well off as society expects 24 year old men to be, so the difference in age really isn't much of an issue. he's basically a teenager, and admits it. i know he sounds worthless, and maybe he is, but i would rather spend a few months being a bum w/ someone worthless than spend a few months of hell with my parents, being abused. regardless, i'm off to college in the fall, and i'm not going to give up my education for him. i'm not trying to marry the guy, i just need someone to lean on while i make the transition from high school to college, since my parents are obviously not there for me in any sort of helpful way. now, could someone please give me legal advice? i need to know if my parents can charge me with being an "unruly child" if they kick me out of the house and find out i'm living with him, since they may do that since they hate him. they've often given me the opportunity to leave, so does that mean it's ok for me to leave once i graduate?