eshields1014
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
I will try to be as detailed and short as possible
My brother who is 17 graduates at the end of this month needs to leave home, my mother is emotionally and verbal abusive to him, as she was to me. When she did this to me I was 18 and able to move out. He has 3 more months. I can get into details if needed. Most people say to stay but he refuses and have been there my self I can't blame him.
She is what we call "crazy smart" she its crazy, but she knows the fine lines in which she cannot cross. He got DHS involved and due to the fact she is causing no physical harm there is nothing they can really do for him. DHS talked to me and said it would be a good idea for him to stay with me but she couldnt force anything and our mother has no idea i am involved in any of this. I have not spoken to her in over 5 years
In our state, if the mother knows where the child is I was told by an officer that she cannot file a runaway report.
My brother was staying with the GF family but they can't really take anymore of her craziness and would like him to stay with us until he is 18 then he can go live with them no problem because there is nothing she can do.
I have read several places online that it is NOT illegal to run away in Oregon. However my question is
If he comes to stay with us, she the mother WILL NOT know he is with us, she doesnt have my address, my phone anything and I'd like to keep it that way. I assume she would file a runaway report. If he was to get picked up while out and about the worst the cop could do it take him back to her house?
Is there anything we can do here? once explaining the situation to a cop would they not leave him in my care since he isn't in harm and is doing nothing wrong and is almost 18. If he was taken back to her house, he would just leave again ...
emancipation as this point would take to long and they require a lot.
I tired to call my local police department but the dispatch lady wanted his address and I do not want to give out any information at this point.
Not sure what to do here or what will happen if he was to come live with us. Love to speak to a local officer but doesn't seem that I am going to get to one.
I will try to be as detailed and short as possible
My brother who is 17 graduates at the end of this month needs to leave home, my mother is emotionally and verbal abusive to him, as she was to me. When she did this to me I was 18 and able to move out. He has 3 more months. I can get into details if needed. Most people say to stay but he refuses and have been there my self I can't blame him.
She is what we call "crazy smart" she its crazy, but she knows the fine lines in which she cannot cross. He got DHS involved and due to the fact she is causing no physical harm there is nothing they can really do for him. DHS talked to me and said it would be a good idea for him to stay with me but she couldnt force anything and our mother has no idea i am involved in any of this. I have not spoken to her in over 5 years
In our state, if the mother knows where the child is I was told by an officer that she cannot file a runaway report.
My brother was staying with the GF family but they can't really take anymore of her craziness and would like him to stay with us until he is 18 then he can go live with them no problem because there is nothing she can do.
I have read several places online that it is NOT illegal to run away in Oregon. However my question is
If he comes to stay with us, she the mother WILL NOT know he is with us, she doesnt have my address, my phone anything and I'd like to keep it that way. I assume she would file a runaway report. If he was to get picked up while out and about the worst the cop could do it take him back to her house?
Is there anything we can do here? once explaining the situation to a cop would they not leave him in my care since he isn't in harm and is doing nothing wrong and is almost 18. If he was taken back to her house, he would just leave again ...
emancipation as this point would take to long and they require a lot.
I tired to call my local police department but the dispatch lady wanted his address and I do not want to give out any information at this point.
Not sure what to do here or what will happen if he was to come live with us. Love to speak to a local officer but doesn't seem that I am going to get to one.
