Making excuses for it signals that you believe it was okay.
1. I never once said that I thought is was ok...
So? That is an excuse.
2. He has never hit her before now.
Those are both huge excuses -- and pathetic excuses at that.
Its not easy being a parent, especially a dad who has full cutody.
They were injuries. From being beat with a belt. NOT appropriate. That is assault. The criminal tool was a belt.
The "injuries" were nothing belt very slight belt marks.
A fantastic father? Why is his 12 year old sexually active? Why does she perform oral sex? What is leading her to do that? What sparked that behavior? There is more to this than meets the eye. Was she sexually abused by someone? If he was a fantastic father there would be answers to my questions and the fantastic father would have dealt with the issue -- be it residential treatment, a psychiatric assessment and treatment or other things. And the father would NOT have resorted to beating his child with a belt.
This man is a fantastic father has been for 12 yrs and I dont feel he should be crucified for making a mistake.
That last statement is a lie or major denial. He has mistreated and abused HIS child. When he beat her with the belt and left "belt marks".
When our children make mistakes do we not forgive them. Are we not capable of making mistakes as well. There are also my children in the home, and not once has he ever mis-treated or abused my kids, or his.
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.
Attorney-GAL in Ohio.
I've removed the knife from my back, polished it, and will one day return it -- long after you think I have forgotten.