oneliltwin
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? North Carolina
Please help me. I have been legally separated from my husband for over 3 years. We have 3 children together. The oldest is 19 and moved out and doing well. I have a 17 year old son and a 6 year old daughter also. My son started to become very disrespectful, rebelious ect after his father left. He got in trouble twice, once of fighting, and then once for breaking into a place with friends and damaging the property and removing things. He had just turned 16 and was sentenced in adult court. He was put on probation, told to attend school and get a job. He refused to do either of those. He broke all my rules, basically running my house while I was at work, and he skipped school. He stole money from me regularly, and would get irrate when I asked him about it. The courts revolked his probation and put him in jail for 28 days the original charges. I let him stay there. When he was released, he did very good for about 2 weeks. I even went out of my way to convince the high school that he was working on doing things right. He didn't though. He stole more then $1000.00 from me from a spot I saved change and bills for vacation. I put a pad lock on my bedroom door, to avoid it (since he always denied doing it.) He simply broke into my bedroom window to get to it after that. There are many other incidents of things he's done, repeated threats, ultimatums, beggings everything, to convince him just get up and do something besides eat, sleep, smoke, steel and hang out. My threats become empty, so I gave him one more, and told him if he didn't get a job (he wasn't allowed back to school by then), within a month, I would pack up his stuff and he would go live with his father. His father and him never were close. His father doesn't pay any child support either. He is "self employed" and any income statement local authorities would get, would be false, as he doesn't report income. Anyway, my son didn't change, and I had his father come and pick up my son's nicely packed belongings and take them to his house. My son didn't come home the day he was suppose to 'move' to his dads. Several days later he called to ask if he could have some money to go to the races. I told him, he lives with his father now, to ask him. I tried to guide him for over 2 years on my own, and now its his fathers turn. That didnt last, they argued several days later, my son left and moved in at is 15 year olds parents house. He had them convinced he was abandoned by his family. They are now, trying to get him dss help, and told me I have to take him home. How can I protect myself, my 6 year old, and my fiance` from having him move back in? I am willing to help him get a place and things like that. I just don't know what to do. any advice, morally, or legal would be greatly appreciated!
Please help me. I have been legally separated from my husband for over 3 years. We have 3 children together. The oldest is 19 and moved out and doing well. I have a 17 year old son and a 6 year old daughter also. My son started to become very disrespectful, rebelious ect after his father left. He got in trouble twice, once of fighting, and then once for breaking into a place with friends and damaging the property and removing things. He had just turned 16 and was sentenced in adult court. He was put on probation, told to attend school and get a job. He refused to do either of those. He broke all my rules, basically running my house while I was at work, and he skipped school. He stole money from me regularly, and would get irrate when I asked him about it. The courts revolked his probation and put him in jail for 28 days the original charges. I let him stay there. When he was released, he did very good for about 2 weeks. I even went out of my way to convince the high school that he was working on doing things right. He didn't though. He stole more then $1000.00 from me from a spot I saved change and bills for vacation. I put a pad lock on my bedroom door, to avoid it (since he always denied doing it.) He simply broke into my bedroom window to get to it after that. There are many other incidents of things he's done, repeated threats, ultimatums, beggings everything, to convince him just get up and do something besides eat, sleep, smoke, steel and hang out. My threats become empty, so I gave him one more, and told him if he didn't get a job (he wasn't allowed back to school by then), within a month, I would pack up his stuff and he would go live with his father. His father and him never were close. His father doesn't pay any child support either. He is "self employed" and any income statement local authorities would get, would be false, as he doesn't report income. Anyway, my son didn't change, and I had his father come and pick up my son's nicely packed belongings and take them to his house. My son didn't come home the day he was suppose to 'move' to his dads. Several days later he called to ask if he could have some money to go to the races. I told him, he lives with his father now, to ask him. I tried to guide him for over 2 years on my own, and now its his fathers turn. That didnt last, they argued several days later, my son left and moved in at is 15 year olds parents house. He had them convinced he was abandoned by his family. They are now, trying to get him dss help, and told me I have to take him home. How can I protect myself, my 6 year old, and my fiance` from having him move back in? I am willing to help him get a place and things like that. I just don't know what to do. any advice, morally, or legal would be greatly appreciated!