Could he actually be charged?

[Littleshark]

Oregon. My boyfriend and I fell madly in love very quickly even though we knew it was wrong because we have such a big age gap. He's 26 and I'm 17. We've decided to wait until I'm 18 to have sex, which is hard. So I did a bit of research on the age of consent (which is 18) but I found out that Rape in the third degree includes consensual sex between a minor who was 14 or 15, and a defendant who was at least three years older than the victim. This says nothing about having sex with a minor who is 17. So could he actually be charged? If so, what would be his penalty if we had sex?

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

There are numerous things he could be charged with if a prosecutor felt he had evidence of a crime.

 

[stealth2]

And what is your parents' opinion of this man? Especially of his being your "boyfriend".

Is he taking you to prom?

 

[eerelations]

Agree with both of the above. There are lots of things this man could be charged with. And if your parents don't like you seeing him? Lots more.

 

[LeeHarveyBlotto]

Does he sell stereos at the mall?

 

[Zigner]

By the age of 26, a normal guy doesn't fall "madly in love" with a 17 year old. I can believe a 19-21 year old, but not a 26 year old.

 

[Just Blue]

By the age of 26, a normal guy doesn't fall "madly in love" with a 17 year old. I can believe a 19-21 year old, but not a 26 year old.

IMO...Any "man" that "hooks" up with a minor ...Well, there is just something wrong there.

 

[NellieBly]

IMO...Any "man" that "hooks" up with a minor ...Well, there is just something wrong there.

My friend's mother got married at 15 to someone who was 25. It ended very, very, very badly.

 

[stealth2]

By the age of 26, a normal guy doesn't fall "madly in love" with a 17 year old. I can believe a 19-21 year old, but not a 26 year old.

More often than not, a 26yo adult who "falls in love" with a 17yo is unable to relate to his/her peers. Goes for someone younger because of their lower maturity level/personal insecurities and the ease of exerting control on a younger partner.

A nine year difference, in and of itself, isn't always a big deal - when the younger has had a chance to mature. That means being allowed to experience normal rites of passage (hence my prom question). A "normal" adult would want his/her younger partner to experience those parts of life - gaining their independence, learning about themselves, enjoying being "young".

OP.... chill a bit. If he really is in love with you, he will understand your need to finish growing into a mature woman. Not physically, but emotionally. Allow yourself to see YOUR life as an independent young woman. If he doesn't? You're looking for a world of hurt.