What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan
My son was divorced about 9 yrs ago. He married a woman back then that had 2 boys from a previous marriage. They had 2 boys while together, they're now age 12 & 14. After being divorced, she remarried a guy and had 3 more kids (and one miscarriage). They live mostly on welfare, the dad works when he wants to, and my son pays $700 a month child support. The person she married is very abusive to the kids (that aren't his). Her 2 oldest boys had gotten in knock down drag out fight with him before and they both have moved out of the house (their father was an illegal mexican and they never knew him). My 2 grandsons love their mother, but don't want to live there anymore...they both want to move in with their dad, but his ex won't even think of it. So my son went to try to get custody last fall. My 14 yr old grandson has turned to drugs and/or alcohol to "cope". He's gotten in trouble at school several times, got caught smoking "spice" or drinking...he's admitted to taking pills. The step dad hit him before and gave him a black eye...then put himself into a treatment center - we know he only did this to try to keep himself out of trouble, and it worked. There's a lot more to their living situation than i can describe here now.
My son has an attorney that is trying to help him get the boys, but for now since Jordan is on probation, has been to detention a few times now, the Atty says there isn't anything they can do until he's gets off probation...or IF the probation officer agrees that the boys need to be moved out of the house. Jordan had been on house arrest also, and a few days ago he snuck off to a neighbors house and got high on spice...the probation officer happened to show up at their house while he was gone and was there when he came back so high they had to take him to the hospital. Now after he gets out of detention again, he'll be on a tether. But they're going to send him right back to where the problems started, at home. He's missed so much school they've been talking of homeschooling him...which is just incredible to me since his mother never went past the 8th grade and wouldn't be much help to him!
The kid is crying for help...the court knows my son is trying to get custody. The probation officer is blatently on his ex wifes side (anyone that has had to deal with this woman says what a B**** she is and is always on the mothers side) When we've gone to court she pretty much ignores him. His ex is a VERY cunning person, and she can make anyone believe she's just a wonderful mother...and we know that's what's she's done. My son lives in another county, so we think some of the issue is if they have the boys move in with their dad they won't be getting the court money in OUR county.
I guess my question is...what can my son do? What's his rights as a father? Is his attorney correct that they can't go on with the custody suit until Jordan is off probation? His atty said the courts believe Jordan is playing the system....he knows he will be put someplace else (detention) when he screws up, and it doesn't seem to matter. I sometimes think he'd rather be there than at home! So why would the court not see what this kid is crying out for? We all really believe that if he was living at his dads, he would have a MUCH better chance of straightening his life up. Sorry for rambling on
....anyone have any ideas for us? Thanks!
My son was divorced about 9 yrs ago. He married a woman back then that had 2 boys from a previous marriage. They had 2 boys while together, they're now age 12 & 14. After being divorced, she remarried a guy and had 3 more kids (and one miscarriage). They live mostly on welfare, the dad works when he wants to, and my son pays $700 a month child support. The person she married is very abusive to the kids (that aren't his). Her 2 oldest boys had gotten in knock down drag out fight with him before and they both have moved out of the house (their father was an illegal mexican and they never knew him). My 2 grandsons love their mother, but don't want to live there anymore...they both want to move in with their dad, but his ex won't even think of it. So my son went to try to get custody last fall. My 14 yr old grandson has turned to drugs and/or alcohol to "cope". He's gotten in trouble at school several times, got caught smoking "spice" or drinking...he's admitted to taking pills. The step dad hit him before and gave him a black eye...then put himself into a treatment center - we know he only did this to try to keep himself out of trouble, and it worked. There's a lot more to their living situation than i can describe here now.
My son has an attorney that is trying to help him get the boys, but for now since Jordan is on probation, has been to detention a few times now, the Atty says there isn't anything they can do until he's gets off probation...or IF the probation officer agrees that the boys need to be moved out of the house. Jordan had been on house arrest also, and a few days ago he snuck off to a neighbors house and got high on spice...the probation officer happened to show up at their house while he was gone and was there when he came back so high they had to take him to the hospital. Now after he gets out of detention again, he'll be on a tether. But they're going to send him right back to where the problems started, at home. He's missed so much school they've been talking of homeschooling him...which is just incredible to me since his mother never went past the 8th grade and wouldn't be much help to him!
The kid is crying for help...the court knows my son is trying to get custody. The probation officer is blatently on his ex wifes side (anyone that has had to deal with this woman says what a B**** she is and is always on the mothers side) When we've gone to court she pretty much ignores him. His ex is a VERY cunning person, and she can make anyone believe she's just a wonderful mother...and we know that's what's she's done. My son lives in another county, so we think some of the issue is if they have the boys move in with their dad they won't be getting the court money in OUR county.
I guess my question is...what can my son do? What's his rights as a father? Is his attorney correct that they can't go on with the custody suit until Jordan is off probation? His atty said the courts believe Jordan is playing the system....he knows he will be put someplace else (detention) when he screws up, and it doesn't seem to matter. I sometimes think he'd rather be there than at home! So why would the court not see what this kid is crying out for? We all really believe that if he was living at his dads, he would have a MUCH better chance of straightening his life up. Sorry for rambling on
....anyone have any ideas for us? Thanks!
