What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama
I have a daughter who is 16, turning 17 in a couple of weeks. Lying, stealing, drugs, and alcohol have been an issue since she was 13 or younger. At 13, we went into family counseling to address these issues and I thought they had been resolved after approximately 14 months in therapy. She was discharged by her therapist who was satisfied (as was I) that she no longer needed help.
Last Wednesday, it came to light that she has not really changed at all; she has just gotten better at hiding what she is doing. I discovered she was stealing seizure medication (Keppra) from my oldest daughter, who will be 21 this year, and replacing it with generic tylenol. As a result of this, my oldest daughter has been sick for nearly two months, unable to work, and having seizures on a near-daily basis. The doctors, being unaware of this, prescribed ativan and xanax as additional methods of controlling the seizures, and these were also stolen by my youngest daughter. This time, she didn't replace it with anything, and it was noticed missing by my oldest daughter.
Upon searching her room for these things, I found some of the Keppra she had been stealing, along with jewelry, electronics, clothing, and makeup that various members of my family have had gone missing over the past couple of years. I also discovered very expensive clothing, jewelry, and makeup that I did not purchase for her, and she could not have afforded herself, which leads me to believe she is shoplifting.
When my youngest daughter returned home and found that I had discovered these things, she refused to discuss it and left with her boyfriend. She has informed me that she will not be returning home, and honestly, I don't want her here. I cannot handle the stress of dealing with her behavior any longer.
From what I understand, I am still legally responsible for her and her actions. She is living with the boyfriend and his parents for now. I do not know what the right thing is here. Do I call the police? Bring criminal charges against her for what she has done? Is there some document I can sign absolving me of any legal responsibility? It is obvious to me that she is unwilling to change her behavior or accept any responsibility for what she has done, so I would like to protect myself legally from the consequences of any further reckless behavior.
Thanks in advance for any help you can provide.