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Stiper2

Member
What is the name of your state? CO
I am a divorced dad with a 17 yr old daughter who came to live with me 5 yrs ago because her and her mother couldn't get along. Now the shoes on the other foot. She is very abusive verbally and physically to me I have had the cops at my door becasue she was claiming child abuse and Social Services has been here 3 times due to her claims that all were unfounded. My daughter won't listen to a word I say and will not tell me where she is and who she's with and doesn't come home sometimes at nite.
WE have been in counseling and that hasn't helped either.
Last nite she came home with a friend and I had told her the friend is not allowed in the house. She pushed me and pulled her friend in the house. I tried to avoid a major fight but she went to far and kicked me and hit me.
I am trying to avoid the police because they said if they came to the house one more time they will make the decision on where she will live until she turns 18.
What legally can I do at this point ? Can I change locks on my doors to keep her out? SHe is leaving hopefully for her summer visit with her mother thats in another state in a week. But I am not sure even if her mother wants her up there at this point. There is no communication with the x anymore due to the child lying to her about all that takes place here.
What protection does an abused parent have these days??? I know you can't kick them out until they are 18.

HELP
 


CourtClerk

Senior Member
Why don't you call the police when she is hitting you and have them decide where she is going to live (i.e. jail)?

You guys let her get out of control, now you don't want to exercise your legal right NOT to be hit on by ANYONE... this includes your juvenile delinquent of a daughter.

The next time someone comes in YOUR HOME without your expressed permission and REFUSES to leave once you tell them to, then CALL THE POLICE and have them escorted out and/or arrested for trespassing.

My gosh, you didn't really need a forum to answer this question did you?
 

Stiper2

Member
We "LET" her get out of control??? what can you do when she does not listen to you? SHe 250 lbs...I can't hit her or spank her....nor put soap iin her mouth for the foul language. THATS ABUSE.....
So what do you do with that??
 

Stiper2

Member
I forgot...If she goes to jail....guess who pays for the attorneys??? Thats why they were not called last nite. If she goes into the ward of the state...guess who pays??
 

CourtClerk

Senior Member
I forgot...If she goes to jail....guess who pays for the attorneys??? Thats why they were not called last nite. If she goes into the ward of the state...guess who pays??
Ok, so let her beat you until she beats you to death. A funeral will be a better use for your money.
 

CourtClerk

Senior Member
We "LET" her get out of control??? what can you do when she does not listen to you? SHe 250 lbs...I can't hit her or spank her....nor put soap iin her mouth for the foul language. THATS ABUSE.....
So what do you do with that??
Trust and believe she lost respect for her parents long before she became 17 and 250lbs., so yes YOU and your EX let her get out of control. 17 year old physically abusive tyrants don't become 17 year old physically abusive tyrants overnight. I know thats not what you want to hear, but it's the complete truth.
 

Stiper2

Member
I know what you are saying....
She was abused while living with her mother. We were divorced when she was 2 yrs old and lived with mom since she was a child. Shes been left alone to do whatever she wanted. I did not know this til it was too late being that she lived 600 miles from me. The problems started around age 11.
Like the police said she isn't going to change. I was just trying to get her through school and do what was right for her. ITs just gotten worse since her hormones have kicked in. Shes been diagnosed with Parental defiant disorder as well as Borderline Personality disorder. ITs been a long stuggle/war and looks like she may win.
I caught her yesterday skipping classes in her second to last week of school. Shes been actually doing very well in school and now is deliberatley messing it up. She is already 2 yrs behind and won't graduate til she is almost 20 yrs old if she does at all.
SO thats in a nut shell. She was going to move back to moms when she turns 18. Thats if mom will have her.
 

stealth2

Under the Radar Member
We "LET" her get out of control??? what can you do when she does not listen to you? SHe 250 lbs...I can't hit her or spank her....nor put soap iin her mouth for the foul language. THATS ABUSE.....
So what do you do with that??
I forgot...If she goes to jail....guess who pays for the attorneys??? Thats why they were not called last nite. If she goes into the ward of the state...guess who pays??
You PARENT the child long before she turns 17 and abusive. You knew 5 years ago - when she was (presumably) not 250 lbs - that she had issues and what did you do? Counseling? COnsequences? Or did you think that being away from that horrible mother of hers would magically result in a wonderful young lady?

Come on, dude - you created this problem at least in part. See it through and call the cops when you need to. :rolleyes:
 

CdwJava

Senior Member
Your "protections" are legal ones. Since you do not seem to be interested in dealing with them through the legal channels by calling the police, that leaves you with two choices: Live with it, or, pass her off to someone else (mom, or anyone else that will have her).

Good luck.

- Carl
 

BL

Senior Member
Last nite she came home with a friend and I had told her the friend is not allowed in the house. She pushed me and pulled her friend in the house. I tried to avoid a major fight but she went to far and kicked me and hit me.
When you let your 17 yr. old get away with that , you are giving her control of your home .

I have had the cops at my door becasue she was claiming child abuse and Social Services has been here 3 times due to her claims that all were unfounded.
She's attempting to get away with it completely .

How many months till she's 18 ?

Personally I'd lay the rules down in my home .

Where I live they have persons in need of services ( pins ) for such issues through the courts . At 17 nearly 18 though , they may be reluctant to go that route , if your location has such a program .
 
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