What is the name of your state? OHIO
My 16 yr. old daughter is being slandered beyond all belief at high school by one girl! This girl is 18, a senior, and comes from a horrible homelife... She is telling everyone at school that my daughter has STD's, smoke crack, snorts pills (yeah, that one didn't make sense to me either, she said that one to me.), and even started telling people and even my younger son that my daughter got raped a few weeks ago. The stories are outrageous and non-stop and my daughter is becoming enraged to the point that she feels she will not be able to control hurting this girl to shut her up. Every guy that likes my daughter is approached by this girl and told lies (like the crazy stuff above) about my daughter, it's her attempt and purpose to ruin my daughter's life. Yes, there's a story that started this, but it's was the other girl who started it and my daughter told her in essence, "Shut up and go away, I hate you, don't ever talk to me again." This girl is just psycho, we all have always known it. My daughter is not one to let people walk over her or threaten her without backing herself up. She's got an attitude that she won't take anything from anyone, but this is getting way out of control and she doesn't know what to do. Every where she turns she's finding out all these things this girl is doing against her.
I've called the school officials, was given to voicemail of the Asst. Principal, waited the entire day, no call back. Just now left a 2nd voicemail with serious urgency that this matter not be held off and wait until Monday, call me today! My eldest daughter, more of a weak, quiet personality was bullied at this same school b/c she wasn't "beautiful" or "popular" or wishing to "fit in" and the officials ended up telling me and a couple other parents "well it appears to be he said/she said, one word against another, and we don't have any proof, all we can do is warn them to stop right now." It was unbelievable if you the entire story was warranted being typed here, just trust me. She moved to live with my sister and bro-in-law to attend her last year of high school in another state with them (they are teachers) and is absolutely flourishing in this other school. Too bad our school has cruddy officials who appear to fear punishing certain students... (jocks, cheerleaders, rich kids)
I am asking - WHAT actions should take to MAKE this stop? I feel like going straight to the top with this one if I don't get immediate results... which top do I go to? School Superintendent, or the State level?
This school is a small community, hick-town sort of school. And it is horrible when it comes to racism (my daughter isn't a victim of the racism aspect in this case), rumors, fights, downright disrespect, drugs & alcohol are rampant and they seem to just keep doing their daily thing with constant "Saturday School" discipline, or "suspended 3 days..." unless it's to the utter extreme in violence (i.e.. bloody, punching, in other words, totally obvious). This girl is graduating in another 2 months and my daughter has another year to go with all these lies floating around about her and alot of kids believing them because they don't know any better!
I've never dealt with the Board of Education before, but one of the board member's daughter is friends with this girl and (my opinion after seeing this girls myspace.com site, her mom doesn't have a clue she's an alcoholic and way out of control herself) makes me wonder how far that would get me once her own child spews these lies to her mother.
Sorry... I am just at my wit's end. This doesn't just affect my daughter, we have 3 boys coming to that school in the next couple years as well. This is affecting our entire family! BTW, this girl's mother (I know for a fact) takes other high school senior boys who are 18 and 19 up to the big inner city and buys crack, smokes it with them, and has had sex with them. This girl has told this to others at school when she found out the boy's she liked were going to see her mother and her mother admitted it, she used this as reasoning to gain the empathy of others at school for her horrible homelife. It's sick... but now that my daughter didn't do what this girl wanted her to, she's ruining her life out of revenge. Even threatened to have her jumped, "and she may not live thru it"... only problem is my daughter talks like she isn't scared, she appears tough and anxious to stop this girl in any way she can. She hasn't acted on her talk, thank the Lord, but I am fearful she is being pushed too far and don't want her to ruin her future b/c she's taken too much and fighting back.
My 16 yr. old daughter is being slandered beyond all belief at high school by one girl! This girl is 18, a senior, and comes from a horrible homelife... She is telling everyone at school that my daughter has STD's, smoke crack, snorts pills (yeah, that one didn't make sense to me either, she said that one to me.), and even started telling people and even my younger son that my daughter got raped a few weeks ago. The stories are outrageous and non-stop and my daughter is becoming enraged to the point that she feels she will not be able to control hurting this girl to shut her up. Every guy that likes my daughter is approached by this girl and told lies (like the crazy stuff above) about my daughter, it's her attempt and purpose to ruin my daughter's life. Yes, there's a story that started this, but it's was the other girl who started it and my daughter told her in essence, "Shut up and go away, I hate you, don't ever talk to me again." This girl is just psycho, we all have always known it. My daughter is not one to let people walk over her or threaten her without backing herself up. She's got an attitude that she won't take anything from anyone, but this is getting way out of control and she doesn't know what to do. Every where she turns she's finding out all these things this girl is doing against her.
I've called the school officials, was given to voicemail of the Asst. Principal, waited the entire day, no call back. Just now left a 2nd voicemail with serious urgency that this matter not be held off and wait until Monday, call me today! My eldest daughter, more of a weak, quiet personality was bullied at this same school b/c she wasn't "beautiful" or "popular" or wishing to "fit in" and the officials ended up telling me and a couple other parents "well it appears to be he said/she said, one word against another, and we don't have any proof, all we can do is warn them to stop right now." It was unbelievable if you the entire story was warranted being typed here, just trust me. She moved to live with my sister and bro-in-law to attend her last year of high school in another state with them (they are teachers) and is absolutely flourishing in this other school. Too bad our school has cruddy officials who appear to fear punishing certain students... (jocks, cheerleaders, rich kids)
I am asking - WHAT actions should take to MAKE this stop? I feel like going straight to the top with this one if I don't get immediate results... which top do I go to? School Superintendent, or the State level?
This school is a small community, hick-town sort of school. And it is horrible when it comes to racism (my daughter isn't a victim of the racism aspect in this case), rumors, fights, downright disrespect, drugs & alcohol are rampant and they seem to just keep doing their daily thing with constant "Saturday School" discipline, or "suspended 3 days..." unless it's to the utter extreme in violence (i.e.. bloody, punching, in other words, totally obvious). This girl is graduating in another 2 months and my daughter has another year to go with all these lies floating around about her and alot of kids believing them because they don't know any better!
I've never dealt with the Board of Education before, but one of the board member's daughter is friends with this girl and (my opinion after seeing this girls myspace.com site, her mom doesn't have a clue she's an alcoholic and way out of control herself) makes me wonder how far that would get me once her own child spews these lies to her mother.
Sorry... I am just at my wit's end. This doesn't just affect my daughter, we have 3 boys coming to that school in the next couple years as well. This is affecting our entire family! BTW, this girl's mother (I know for a fact) takes other high school senior boys who are 18 and 19 up to the big inner city and buys crack, smokes it with them, and has had sex with them. This girl has told this to others at school when she found out the boy's she liked were going to see her mother and her mother admitted it, she used this as reasoning to gain the empathy of others at school for her horrible homelife. It's sick... but now that my daughter didn't do what this girl wanted her to, she's ruining her life out of revenge. Even threatened to have her jumped, "and she may not live thru it"... only problem is my daughter talks like she isn't scared, she appears tough and anxious to stop this girl in any way she can. She hasn't acted on her talk, thank the Lord, but I am fearful she is being pushed too far and don't want her to ruin her future b/c she's taken too much and fighting back.
