What is the name of your state? Arizona
My son started being a problem at 12 years old when he stole credit cards form my wallet and went online and signed up for every porn service he could find. Our bills go out monthly automatically and I found out what was going on 3 months later when my credit card was declined. After investigation my son had run up over 1200 in fraudulent pornography charges over 3 months. Choices... press charges or pay the bills... We punished him and started counseling and paid the bills. When he wanted a cell phone we got him one on the family plan. Month 1 - He ran over and cost about $100. We explained emergency use, took his phone away a week and then returned it. Month 2. Over by $275. Very angry conversation, more explanation, no phone and grounded a week. Month 3 – absolutely defied us and purposely rang up $500 in overage charges. He will never have a phone again under our name.
Gave him part time job in our company and paid him well for it.. Cosigned for a bank account. Made him put most of check in bank but keep some spending money, but made mistake in letting him keep ATM Card. He took all his money out blew it on Manga Anime books and when he needed more money, committed bank fraud and nearly got our accounts closed (we were co-signers on his account) by putting a blank envelope in the deposit slot and taking money against the non-existent deposit. We’ve caught him stealing several times and he has taken about $2500 over the last 3 years. (we have him on video tape). He can’t keep a job, he ran away because we are so unfair to him. We accepted him back into our home and he became intolerable with attitude. He is on his 3rd school this year as he keeps skipping classes and refusing to work at school. I had him arrested for bringing drugs into our house about 30 days ago. He had a bag of marijuana, 2 hash pipes along with a concealed meat cleaver in his bag?? They left him in our custody and said they would be in touch…. 30 days nothing…. Meanwhile, we are the bad guys and he has left again. We are on our 2nd filing of runaway status. We have tried positive re-enforcement, negative re-enforcement, family counseling, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. He lies about everything. He defies our rules and will not do what he is told. He will listen to no one. He steals from us every opportunity he gets. I want him out of my house for good. He is not here now as he is a runaway again, and I assume when we get the paperwork for his court date they will issue a bench warrant and I can have him arrested when I find where he is, but my question is what are my rights. We do not beat him, we do everything to try to make his life better than what we had. His 2 year old younger sister is President of the Drama Club, President of the School choir and gets straight A’s. He will not try. How do I get him permanently out of my custody?
I know every one will say I am horrible, but I am tired… I’ve got 6 years of working my butt of to try to help him while he absolutely does nothing for himself and defies every rule of my house. He knows right form wrong. It’s time to stand on his own. Trust me this is only the tip of the iceberg or highlihgts of the story! Any help??
Raising a juvenile delinquent in Arizona!
My son started being a problem at 12 years old when he stole credit cards form my wallet and went online and signed up for every porn service he could find. Our bills go out monthly automatically and I found out what was going on 3 months later when my credit card was declined. After investigation my son had run up over 1200 in fraudulent pornography charges over 3 months. Choices... press charges or pay the bills... We punished him and started counseling and paid the bills. When he wanted a cell phone we got him one on the family plan. Month 1 - He ran over and cost about $100. We explained emergency use, took his phone away a week and then returned it. Month 2. Over by $275. Very angry conversation, more explanation, no phone and grounded a week. Month 3 – absolutely defied us and purposely rang up $500 in overage charges. He will never have a phone again under our name.
Gave him part time job in our company and paid him well for it.. Cosigned for a bank account. Made him put most of check in bank but keep some spending money, but made mistake in letting him keep ATM Card. He took all his money out blew it on Manga Anime books and when he needed more money, committed bank fraud and nearly got our accounts closed (we were co-signers on his account) by putting a blank envelope in the deposit slot and taking money against the non-existent deposit. We’ve caught him stealing several times and he has taken about $2500 over the last 3 years. (we have him on video tape). He can’t keep a job, he ran away because we are so unfair to him. We accepted him back into our home and he became intolerable with attitude. He is on his 3rd school this year as he keeps skipping classes and refusing to work at school. I had him arrested for bringing drugs into our house about 30 days ago. He had a bag of marijuana, 2 hash pipes along with a concealed meat cleaver in his bag?? They left him in our custody and said they would be in touch…. 30 days nothing…. Meanwhile, we are the bad guys and he has left again. We are on our 2nd filing of runaway status. We have tried positive re-enforcement, negative re-enforcement, family counseling, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. He lies about everything. He defies our rules and will not do what he is told. He will listen to no one. He steals from us every opportunity he gets. I want him out of my house for good. He is not here now as he is a runaway again, and I assume when we get the paperwork for his court date they will issue a bench warrant and I can have him arrested when I find where he is, but my question is what are my rights. We do not beat him, we do everything to try to make his life better than what we had. His 2 year old younger sister is President of the Drama Club, President of the School choir and gets straight A’s. He will not try. How do I get him permanently out of my custody?
I know every one will say I am horrible, but I am tired… I’ve got 6 years of working my butt of to try to help him while he absolutely does nothing for himself and defies every rule of my house. He knows right form wrong. It’s time to stand on his own. Trust me this is only the tip of the iceberg or highlihgts of the story! Any help??
Raising a juvenile delinquent in Arizona!