I live on the Florida panhandle and I moved from Michigan to move in with my long time boyfriend. I've been here a little over two years. When I moved here he said that all I had to do was be a homemaker and take care of the house. But in the past when we've struggled with bills I've sold some collectibles of mine to help our situation. For the most part however I've cooked, cleaned, helped manage bills, found roommates on craigslist to bring in more money, kept track of our roommate's rents, dealt with the mortgage company, etc.
Recently we've been getting into arguments and he says things he doesn't mean. (He told me not to clean anymore and so our other roommate does it now to get free cigarettes from my bf.) My bf has schizophrenia and has mood swings but so far we've always gotten through it. Currently we have 3 male roommates (in a 4 room, 1 1/2 bath. house) and he has become best friends with them because they are all gamers. 2 of the 3 roommates hate me. They hear an argument, my boyfriend tells them it's all my fault, and they only listen to his side. He drags them into our business and takes away all privacy because he doesn't trust his own decision making process, so he says.
2 weeks ago my boyfriend got mad at me and told all of the roommates to decide whether or not I should live here or not or just go back to Michigan for a while. He said it was up to them when he was angry. 2 of 3 roomies said they want me gone. (BTW- together these 2 guys owe $3000 because they are several months behind on their rents.) The day after he regretted that because he told me "I still want you here, but it's too late. I don't want to undermine my friendship with our roommates." So, we've worked on being as generous as we could for the last two weeks getting them all presents for Christmas and sharing our new things with them. We all played rockband together. But then as luck has it they all said I still have to leave as planned by them 2 weeks ago.
My problem is that all my stuff is here. He's only going to pay for a bus ticket. My bf and I have a dog that we adopted together which I guess he will keep, but my parents also let me have their dog. How am I supposed to get my dog back to Michigan on a bus? My parents will be furious if I lose our family dog to these awful roommates. From what I've been told they can't kick me out unless they get an official written eviction notice that they have to pay for at the courthouse. But the roommates keep telling me that if I don't pay rent they don't need an eviction notice and they'll just have a cop come take me away if I refuse to leave.
Is that true? Can anyone give me advice on my 2 roommates that don't pay rent either, but yet they act like they own the place? I was here first and I still plan to have and raise children in this home. My boyfriend is being a jerk right now (and doesn't know when his so called friends are using him) but we've known eachother almost 6 years and had planned to get married before the roommates told him not to. He was also planning on putting my name on the house so that I'd always have support if anything happened to him, but the roommates told him not to do that either. (I don't want to be a gold digger so I told him that putting my name on the house was up to him.)
They said that because they know that if I had any ownership I would make them pay rent. Though I've helped keep this house afloat and stuck by my boyfriend through his illness because I truly love him it doesn't matter now because I'm getting ganged up on. I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone because there are so many mean people here. Unless his brain chemicals level out before his social security payment comes I might be on a bus back to Michigan. Or if someone can let me know whether or not kicking me out without the eviction notice is legal or not?
(P.S. Today I offered the Christmas money my parents sent me to pay rent for my stay here next month if only he'd change his mind about me staying here. My one roommate who was standing there said, "Refuse the money. Don't take it," to my bf. Wow. I am completely stumped on this one. I wanted to pay, but I have to move out. They don't pay, and they get to stay here.)
Recently we've been getting into arguments and he says things he doesn't mean. (He told me not to clean anymore and so our other roommate does it now to get free cigarettes from my bf.) My bf has schizophrenia and has mood swings but so far we've always gotten through it. Currently we have 3 male roommates (in a 4 room, 1 1/2 bath. house) and he has become best friends with them because they are all gamers. 2 of the 3 roommates hate me. They hear an argument, my boyfriend tells them it's all my fault, and they only listen to his side. He drags them into our business and takes away all privacy because he doesn't trust his own decision making process, so he says.
2 weeks ago my boyfriend got mad at me and told all of the roommates to decide whether or not I should live here or not or just go back to Michigan for a while. He said it was up to them when he was angry. 2 of 3 roomies said they want me gone. (BTW- together these 2 guys owe $3000 because they are several months behind on their rents.) The day after he regretted that because he told me "I still want you here, but it's too late. I don't want to undermine my friendship with our roommates." So, we've worked on being as generous as we could for the last two weeks getting them all presents for Christmas and sharing our new things with them. We all played rockband together. But then as luck has it they all said I still have to leave as planned by them 2 weeks ago.
My problem is that all my stuff is here. He's only going to pay for a bus ticket. My bf and I have a dog that we adopted together which I guess he will keep, but my parents also let me have their dog. How am I supposed to get my dog back to Michigan on a bus? My parents will be furious if I lose our family dog to these awful roommates. From what I've been told they can't kick me out unless they get an official written eviction notice that they have to pay for at the courthouse. But the roommates keep telling me that if I don't pay rent they don't need an eviction notice and they'll just have a cop come take me away if I refuse to leave.
Is that true? Can anyone give me advice on my 2 roommates that don't pay rent either, but yet they act like they own the place? I was here first and I still plan to have and raise children in this home. My boyfriend is being a jerk right now (and doesn't know when his so called friends are using him) but we've known eachother almost 6 years and had planned to get married before the roommates told him not to. He was also planning on putting my name on the house so that I'd always have support if anything happened to him, but the roommates told him not to do that either. (I don't want to be a gold digger so I told him that putting my name on the house was up to him.)
They said that because they know that if I had any ownership I would make them pay rent. Though I've helped keep this house afloat and stuck by my boyfriend through his illness because I truly love him it doesn't matter now because I'm getting ganged up on. I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone because there are so many mean people here. Unless his brain chemicals level out before his social security payment comes I might be on a bus back to Michigan. Or if someone can let me know whether or not kicking me out without the eviction notice is legal or not?
(P.S. Today I offered the Christmas money my parents sent me to pay rent for my stay here next month if only he'd change his mind about me staying here. My one roommate who was standing there said, "Refuse the money. Don't take it," to my bf. Wow. I am completely stumped on this one. I wanted to pay, but I have to move out. They don't pay, and they get to stay here.)