Thanks to everyone for the input. I took it all in to consideration. Here's what has happened in the last two months:
- I went back and forth with the landlord for a few weeks, told her I would not move out
- She put the water-bill back in her name without notifying me (fine because I don't have to pay it anymore)
- The stove broke 2 months ago and it has not been fixed yet
- She moved back to town and was staying in a hotel down the street for awhile. She'd pester me about needing to send mail to "her house" and asking if I could hold it for her. She also got on me about cleaning the gutters (which was never discussed previously). I did it, but not without some hesitation.
- She needed her washer/dryer back (fine because I have some old ones sitting in my garage. it's a downgrade for me though)
Eventually, the harassment from her was enough. I decided that if she would pay for every aspect of my move, then I MIGHT consider it... but only if I can find a place that fits my needs (not easy to do). I came up with these numbers:
- Deposit returned in full so I can use it for new location ($1600)
- Official quote from a moving company: $1600 (I have some big things, i.e. baby grand piano)
- Application fees for new places
- Fees for setting up utilities at new residence (was $150 for installing TV/Internet in my current place 3 months ago)
- Compensation for time away from work and extra moving expenses (packing supplies, gas, etc)
- A few days to move, during which I will not pay double rent (i.e. rent at both places)
I started by asking her for $4950 total (which includes my current $1600 security deposit with her). We negotiated to $3750 unofficially (text messages/emails).
So I started looking for new places. I was fortunate enough to find a house that would work within a couple of weeks (it is a bit of a downgrade, but not much). She gave me the money for the application fee ($150) and I submitted the application in full this Wednesday morning (Dec 5). I've yet to hear if I got accepted (today is Saturday). Though I have heard that the application was delayed because my current landlord did not correctly send them the "Rental Verification Form". Why am I'm not surprised :S
So if I get accepted for the new place, I plan to put together a document that will void our prior lease agreement so long as she pays what we agree on. I already know she is reluctant to pay the full amount before I move out... she said "How do I know you will move out after I give you that money?" So I'm hoping the document will assure that each party does as they agree: me out by a certain date, and her giving me $3750 total before I'm out for good (she already paid $150 for the application and $1600 is MY deposit money, so $2000 remains)
I'm thinking of asking for the $1600 deposit immediately to pay for next security deposit at my new residence, then the remaining $2000 will need to be received on or before January 4th (a date she set). If I get the new lease to start on January 1, then this gives me 4 days to move to the new residence without paying double rent.
Thanks again. If this all goes through, I will be working with a Real-Estate company at my new place and NOT a landlord. I expect things will be handled much more professionally.
Gossip: a neighbor approached me about the landlord being back in town (really). I told him a bit of what was going on... he was disappointed too; he said he'd be sorry to see me go, said I was a far superior neighbor