"fast track" to adoption
Hello everyone!
I dont know if anyone is still following this thread or not, but you've all been so helpful, I wanted to give you some GOOD NEWS for a change!
The lawyer filed the motion to terminate parental rights on the parents of my nephew-
soon-to-be-SON about three months ago. Mom had no issue with signing away her rights. She actually said that she was glad to be done with it and just agreed to consent to adoption.
Brother pitched a fit at first, but then he FINALLY did an intelligent thing and agreed to consent to adoption!!!!!!!!
Judge said that "This family has gone been suffering through this for long enough. I'm going to put this adoption on a Fast track". We don't have to have the homestudy (but we've already done it with a private organization), and have already taken parenting classes. Judge did ask us to pass a fire inspection, which we did last week.
soooooooo,
We have an upcoming hearing to finalize next month!!!!!!!!!!! I am quite sure that I will explode before then.
Nephew is doing well. We've been dealing with some nightmares, recently, some of them pretty nasty. I also had some pictures of his daddy and mother available to him, but nephew actually threw the pictures in the trashcan. I dug them out and hid them away. His therapist and I mutually agreed that I should hold on to them until he has worked on some of his issues and then offer the pictures back to him. He has quit checking the locks at nights, but is still pretty fearful at times, especially when he needs correction. It amazes me how little time it takes to cause long term hurt to a child mind. I'm not sure how long he will be affected from witnessing my brother's attack on me. He saw things that no child should ever have to see, and is scared that someone will do that to him when he gets in trouble.
He slips and calls me mommy when he is scared. I don't correct him anymore, as his therapist feels that being able to call someone mommy gives him a sense of security. I'll tell you a secret....I hate it when he is scared, but I love to hear him say "mommy, snuggle me" as he curls up in my lap. L.O.V.E it. I cannot wait for the day that I can say "YUP, that's right! I'm your mommy forever and ever and ever!"
I am ok. I don't check the locks anymore either. I can get through most days without thinking about what my brother did to me. I do have one scar on my chest, and while I don't care about a scar, I seeing that scar brings back a painful memory. I don't wake up in a cold sweat anymore, and I don't hear those nasty words in my sleep anymore.
Nephew and I are both safe. We have a fully belly and a warm house and a great big Christmas tree with WAY too many presents under it. We laugh every day and we play with matchbox cars every day. Even the goats are nice and safe in their barn.
I think we are going to be ok!
Silverplum, Ohiogal, Justalayman, LdiJ, Proserpina, ecmst,.....and whomever else I have forgotten (forgive me, it's late)..... Thank you so much for all your help through all of this. I haven't always agreed with everything you all have said, but I did listen to everything that was said. Even when I acted like a witch, lol. I wish you all a wonderful and happy holiday season! May your belly be full and your heart be warm!
I'm relaxing with some Chardonnay (and some Kenny G), and since I cant pass a glass to each of you, I'll have an extra glass in your honor!