What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Arizona.
Hi, My story is a long and intertwined, complicated one, but to break it down to my question on what I can do for possible slander/defamation/lasting emotional distress, here goes.
Last year, (June 2009, I'm still getting used to 2011) I had contacted a lawyer who was willing to work Pro-bono for my unique situation. It was very difficult, with my then situation for me to even be able to contact anyone, let alone legal help. Because of very serious things that weren't properly addressed within my family, I had no choice but to stay with them (or DV shelters, as I had been forced to go to, and I couldn't deal with that trauma) and my parents put a block on the phone, for 411 and any out of area code numbers. Which I needed, for proof of things, as my bank with that info was in Virginia, where we lived before here. They were also still verbally abusive, and intimidating me from getting help, exposing things, etc. But, I managed to get in contact with my old bank, get proof of things online, print them out, etc. And, I was getting in touch with therapy help, and proper mental health help.
I guess I have to back up a bit and explain why I was in the situation I'm about to describe in the first place. A lot of actual criminal things had happened to me by members of my family. To begin, my dad has been physically, verbally, mentally abusive for me and some of my siblings since I was young (tho, I did get most of his abuse). The difference tho, was, for me, my mom was not protective, at all. She was the opposite. She denied everything my dad did, even when she'd witness it, and instead, blamed me for how it affected me, by withdrawing, and wanting to hide bc I was ashamed of the pain. She has also bizarrely accused me of things I didn't do for most of my life. For example, recently, she called me when I was staying with my ex-bf and screamed I had her phone charger. Which, actually, I had no phone charger, I left mine at her "house" and had no clue hers was even missing. It's not a big deal, except she has denied serious, criminal things that really has gone on, and hurt me bc of her denials.
Looking back at how everything has started, I realize more now than I did then, such as it isn't my fault how I was treated, etc, but I never turned to drugs or alcohol, like most of my siblings (I have 9) have to "cope". I read a lot, I sang, I listened to music, I walked, I thought. And, most importantly, I never choose to mimic my dad and be abusive, like most of my siblings have.
I graduated High School in Spring of 2002. I wanted to audition for a music school, but I realize now I was seriously depressed b/c of the situation and abuse, and I started having anxiety as a result of the unresolved/un-talked about trauma from everything growing up. And, my dad was still physically violent with me, as well as verbal, mental. He'd throw me against the wall and spit in my face, accusing me of sleeping with random people on the street that, in reality, I never even talked to. Again, I realize now, he is sick, but honestly, what I'm going to explain is that everything hasn't properly come out, and I've been hurt for being the victim, basically.
I asked my mom to help me with the music schools, and she basically told me, I can't be a singer bc I'm not pretty enough. And that summer (2002) I got extreme, extreme tooth pain. It left me unable to sleep, unable to eat, I took aspirin but it didn't relieve the pain. I had to beg my mom (at first she did refuse) to take me to the dentist (she wouldn't even let me practice driving when I got my permit) and the dentist said I had a tooth abscess, and it'd cost money to do the surgery to relieve it. I have to go back a bit to explain how I got this money that would have helped me get the surgery and I would have used the rest for college. When I was 6, I was swiped (hit isn't the right word) by a drunk driver speeding on a residential street in philadelphia, where we lived. I (still) remember flying on the windshield, I don't remember the impact of being hit, but I was on his windshield, and when he stopped his car when he saw me, I fell onto the ground. I remember being fully conscious though it all. I was taken to a hospital to be checked out, they found no injuries except an eye one. (and probably, some minor cuts and bruises) My eye was hit when I fell onto the ground and it swelled up. No brain injuries at all, (which has been unbelievably made up and used in a bogus retaliation petition;reason for my question) There is obviously a record of their report, stating I was relatively unharmed, and even my Mom, who has lied about everything else, told them, after they wrote the bogus petition which directly hurt my life, that I didn't have any brain injuries at all from it. It wasn't even an issue, or something I was traumatized from, as it is now, due to the bogus petition and what it's caused. I think I know my life better than strangers, trying to protect their company (or whatever) from their own huge mistakes they made in the first place. So, I think I meandered a bit and got ahead of my story, but I got a 10,000 settlement for when I turned 18 from that. My family was very poor, and I could have been easily killed. I was just lucky I flew onto the windshield. When I was 18, I think I didn't know how to stand up for myself, kind of like a beaten dog, I was afraid. I didn't know I could help myself. But, that doesn't excuse what happened later. My mom continued to neglect me, would not listen to me when I asked for her help in setting up a bank account, getting tooth surgery, getting away from all that abuse, into college, etc. So, finally, my oldest sister, Jessica, said she would help me, if I lent her some money. I was in so much pain, and so depressed bc of it, I agreed. I just wanted out of that pain and able to live my life as I choose, and deserved. She helped set up my bank account, took me to boston to live with her and my other sister, Jennifer, and I finally was looked at for surgery for my teeth at BU dental school. There was minor abuse going on at that time, Jessica would randomly slap me, would yell at me if I moved something of "hers", etc. She was very controlling and mean behind closed doors and the opposite in front of others. My sister Jennifer is the same way. I started the surgery in January 2004, and in February, I found out I had no money on my account. Jessica told me she was sorry, and I didn't even understand at that point just what had happened. Jessica was, unbeknown to me, using my PIN (I've since found out, from my bank) and stealing my money by the thousands. My younger sister Jackie, who was 15/16 at the time she did this, was using my un-used checks I left in my drawer (not hers) at the family home in VA, and forging my signature and writing it out as gifts to her, from me. The bank let her do this. Jessica knew what jackie (and herself) was doing, as jackie told her, but she did nothing to stop it or tell me. In total, they took everything I had (around 9,000) and put me in debt to the bank. I had to stop the surgery, and Jessica wouldn't even let me stay with her, or even talk to me about paying me back. I had to go back to va. My parents did nothing about it. nothing but intimidate me from going to the police (I was about to call when I first found out, jenn told me it would be "worked out") and enable jackie, and abuse and neglect me even more. Jackie would scream at me when I'd ask her why and when she'd pay me back, she broke the computer in the house right before I was trying to take online college classes I needed to transfer and get out of the mess. I had to walk to the library and take them, and that proved..with everything else continuing, impossible. She then assaulted me violently when all I did was try to borrow a bag to put my books in to go to the library, and honestly, I think that was the last straw. My body and mind reacted in severe panic attacks, heart palpitations, and I felt like I couldn't even speak about what happened to anyone. Nobody I knew cared, they were responsible. I was numb, I thought if i tried to forget, it would go away, but the problem wasn't me, and it wasn't addressed or resolved. My family came here to Arizona in Summer 2005. I actually came over first with my brothers jason and jacob. I didn't have a choice in coming or not coming. I didn't want to be around my family anymore, but with what they did, I didn't have any money, was severely traumatized, etc, and I had to be dependent on them, which is actually what I think my dad likes. He likes the control. And my mom likes to "complain" and inaccurately be seen as a martyr or "good" mother. Before having to come here, I asked my mom for the 2,000 Jackie (who was underage) stole. She screamed at me some lame excuse, and refused. So, I came, and I wanted so bad for all this to be gone. But again, it just doesn't work that way when it's bigger than you. The extreme heat (the ac broke down for that july 2005 heatwave, i sweated in my sleep, and I think it added to my PTSD) the alienation you feel with the people here, and the fact that my PTSD came out in full force, and I didn't know what the hell was going on when my heart would beat fast, or I couldn't breathe, or my chest would tighten. But I knew it had to do with all the violence, crime and abuse not resolved within the family. My tooth pain was still going on, I had to take so much aspirin, I developed an allergic reaction to it (learned that the hard way) and again, my mom was negligent.
Hi, My story is a long and intertwined, complicated one, but to break it down to my question on what I can do for possible slander/defamation/lasting emotional distress, here goes.
Last year, (June 2009, I'm still getting used to 2011) I had contacted a lawyer who was willing to work Pro-bono for my unique situation. It was very difficult, with my then situation for me to even be able to contact anyone, let alone legal help. Because of very serious things that weren't properly addressed within my family, I had no choice but to stay with them (or DV shelters, as I had been forced to go to, and I couldn't deal with that trauma) and my parents put a block on the phone, for 411 and any out of area code numbers. Which I needed, for proof of things, as my bank with that info was in Virginia, where we lived before here. They were also still verbally abusive, and intimidating me from getting help, exposing things, etc. But, I managed to get in contact with my old bank, get proof of things online, print them out, etc. And, I was getting in touch with therapy help, and proper mental health help.
I guess I have to back up a bit and explain why I was in the situation I'm about to describe in the first place. A lot of actual criminal things had happened to me by members of my family. To begin, my dad has been physically, verbally, mentally abusive for me and some of my siblings since I was young (tho, I did get most of his abuse). The difference tho, was, for me, my mom was not protective, at all. She was the opposite. She denied everything my dad did, even when she'd witness it, and instead, blamed me for how it affected me, by withdrawing, and wanting to hide bc I was ashamed of the pain. She has also bizarrely accused me of things I didn't do for most of my life. For example, recently, she called me when I was staying with my ex-bf and screamed I had her phone charger. Which, actually, I had no phone charger, I left mine at her "house" and had no clue hers was even missing. It's not a big deal, except she has denied serious, criminal things that really has gone on, and hurt me bc of her denials.
Looking back at how everything has started, I realize more now than I did then, such as it isn't my fault how I was treated, etc, but I never turned to drugs or alcohol, like most of my siblings (I have 9) have to "cope". I read a lot, I sang, I listened to music, I walked, I thought. And, most importantly, I never choose to mimic my dad and be abusive, like most of my siblings have.
I graduated High School in Spring of 2002. I wanted to audition for a music school, but I realize now I was seriously depressed b/c of the situation and abuse, and I started having anxiety as a result of the unresolved/un-talked about trauma from everything growing up. And, my dad was still physically violent with me, as well as verbal, mental. He'd throw me against the wall and spit in my face, accusing me of sleeping with random people on the street that, in reality, I never even talked to. Again, I realize now, he is sick, but honestly, what I'm going to explain is that everything hasn't properly come out, and I've been hurt for being the victim, basically.
I asked my mom to help me with the music schools, and she basically told me, I can't be a singer bc I'm not pretty enough. And that summer (2002) I got extreme, extreme tooth pain. It left me unable to sleep, unable to eat, I took aspirin but it didn't relieve the pain. I had to beg my mom (at first she did refuse) to take me to the dentist (she wouldn't even let me practice driving when I got my permit) and the dentist said I had a tooth abscess, and it'd cost money to do the surgery to relieve it. I have to go back a bit to explain how I got this money that would have helped me get the surgery and I would have used the rest for college. When I was 6, I was swiped (hit isn't the right word) by a drunk driver speeding on a residential street in philadelphia, where we lived. I (still) remember flying on the windshield, I don't remember the impact of being hit, but I was on his windshield, and when he stopped his car when he saw me, I fell onto the ground. I remember being fully conscious though it all. I was taken to a hospital to be checked out, they found no injuries except an eye one. (and probably, some minor cuts and bruises) My eye was hit when I fell onto the ground and it swelled up. No brain injuries at all, (which has been unbelievably made up and used in a bogus retaliation petition;reason for my question) There is obviously a record of their report, stating I was relatively unharmed, and even my Mom, who has lied about everything else, told them, after they wrote the bogus petition which directly hurt my life, that I didn't have any brain injuries at all from it. It wasn't even an issue, or something I was traumatized from, as it is now, due to the bogus petition and what it's caused. I think I know my life better than strangers, trying to protect their company (or whatever) from their own huge mistakes they made in the first place. So, I think I meandered a bit and got ahead of my story, but I got a 10,000 settlement for when I turned 18 from that. My family was very poor, and I could have been easily killed. I was just lucky I flew onto the windshield. When I was 18, I think I didn't know how to stand up for myself, kind of like a beaten dog, I was afraid. I didn't know I could help myself. But, that doesn't excuse what happened later. My mom continued to neglect me, would not listen to me when I asked for her help in setting up a bank account, getting tooth surgery, getting away from all that abuse, into college, etc. So, finally, my oldest sister, Jessica, said she would help me, if I lent her some money. I was in so much pain, and so depressed bc of it, I agreed. I just wanted out of that pain and able to live my life as I choose, and deserved. She helped set up my bank account, took me to boston to live with her and my other sister, Jennifer, and I finally was looked at for surgery for my teeth at BU dental school. There was minor abuse going on at that time, Jessica would randomly slap me, would yell at me if I moved something of "hers", etc. She was very controlling and mean behind closed doors and the opposite in front of others. My sister Jennifer is the same way. I started the surgery in January 2004, and in February, I found out I had no money on my account. Jessica told me she was sorry, and I didn't even understand at that point just what had happened. Jessica was, unbeknown to me, using my PIN (I've since found out, from my bank) and stealing my money by the thousands. My younger sister Jackie, who was 15/16 at the time she did this, was using my un-used checks I left in my drawer (not hers) at the family home in VA, and forging my signature and writing it out as gifts to her, from me. The bank let her do this. Jessica knew what jackie (and herself) was doing, as jackie told her, but she did nothing to stop it or tell me. In total, they took everything I had (around 9,000) and put me in debt to the bank. I had to stop the surgery, and Jessica wouldn't even let me stay with her, or even talk to me about paying me back. I had to go back to va. My parents did nothing about it. nothing but intimidate me from going to the police (I was about to call when I first found out, jenn told me it would be "worked out") and enable jackie, and abuse and neglect me even more. Jackie would scream at me when I'd ask her why and when she'd pay me back, she broke the computer in the house right before I was trying to take online college classes I needed to transfer and get out of the mess. I had to walk to the library and take them, and that proved..with everything else continuing, impossible. She then assaulted me violently when all I did was try to borrow a bag to put my books in to go to the library, and honestly, I think that was the last straw. My body and mind reacted in severe panic attacks, heart palpitations, and I felt like I couldn't even speak about what happened to anyone. Nobody I knew cared, they were responsible. I was numb, I thought if i tried to forget, it would go away, but the problem wasn't me, and it wasn't addressed or resolved. My family came here to Arizona in Summer 2005. I actually came over first with my brothers jason and jacob. I didn't have a choice in coming or not coming. I didn't want to be around my family anymore, but with what they did, I didn't have any money, was severely traumatized, etc, and I had to be dependent on them, which is actually what I think my dad likes. He likes the control. And my mom likes to "complain" and inaccurately be seen as a martyr or "good" mother. Before having to come here, I asked my mom for the 2,000 Jackie (who was underage) stole. She screamed at me some lame excuse, and refused. So, I came, and I wanted so bad for all this to be gone. But again, it just doesn't work that way when it's bigger than you. The extreme heat (the ac broke down for that july 2005 heatwave, i sweated in my sleep, and I think it added to my PTSD) the alienation you feel with the people here, and the fact that my PTSD came out in full force, and I didn't know what the hell was going on when my heart would beat fast, or I couldn't breathe, or my chest would tighten. But I knew it had to do with all the violence, crime and abuse not resolved within the family. My tooth pain was still going on, I had to take so much aspirin, I developed an allergic reaction to it (learned that the hard way) and again, my mom was negligent.