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I broke up with an ex-gf over a year ago. Since then she has been contacting people that I know with the intent to turn them against me. She has claimed that I threatened to kill her brother, that I ripped her off etc etc. I have had people contact me telling me she was contacting them via online.
I was also told by a 3rd party that my ex had several conversations about me. In one of them, my ex expressed a desire for me to die violently.
I collected a lot of information and I even went as far to contact law enforcement in three different states since she and I live in two different places. I even spoke with a prosecutor. Each official was in agreement that she has was harassing and stalking me. The prosecutor told me that if this case had been in their jurisdiction they would prosecute. One of the detectives told me to secure and save all forms of communication between us because it would be relevant to any future criminal case.
At the time I had no wish to press charges because I had a hope that she would tire of it and stop. I really did not wish to have her arrested even though I was repeatedly told that there was enough grounds to make an arrest.
About two months ago I found out that my ex had made a posting on a consumer website about me. She posted my name, my cell phone number, what she thought was my home address, my email, and she wrote a paragraph falsely accusing me of all kinds of crimes. She tried to create the false impression that I was only someone that she knew over the phone and through email. This is very false. She said she was writing it as a warning to others about me. I found out about all of this because I started receiving phone calls from people I did not know about it.
After seeing her entry on this website I showed it to several of my friends to ask for advice on what to do about it. I even called my local police department and they were concerned for my safety since she had posted so much personal information about me. I was encouraged to make a criminal complaint.
One of my friends decided to post a rebuttal to her accusations. He made an itemized list of how she has been attacking, harassing, and defaming me. When she made her original posting she did it anonymously so my friend posted her full name. It directly rebutted every false accusation she made.
When reading her original posting it became clear that she falsely tried to create the impression that she and I had never met face to face. That lead my friend to make another rebuttal posting in which he itemized by date every single time we spent time together, including where we stayed, what we did, and whether or not we had sex. The intent of the post was to show she lied in her original posting that it was a “phone/email relationship”.
A month ago I get this email from a lawyer in North Carolina (neither of us live there) that 1.) I cease and desist from making any further comments about his client. 2.) That I destroy evidence that a detective previously told me was related to her criminal conduct. 3.) That they could sue me for defamation and invasion of privacy.
Apparently this attorney believes that my friend discussing her sex life with me is far worse than her advocating my being murdered in cold blood and harassing and stalking me.
I sent this attorney an email outlining his client’s criminal conduct against me and made it clear that law enforcement considers me to be a victim of a crime. I also asked him if it was his intention to pressure a victim of a crime to destroy evidence. I have never gotten a reply to my email. I did speak to him on the phone and I repeated that I have the right to bring a criminal complaint against his client. His response made me feel like I was being threatened with retaliation if I took that route.
Now to my questions:
1.) How seriously should I take their threat to file a defamation lawsuit? Everything that was written by my friend was in response to her initial post falsely accusing me of crimes and posting all my personal information.
2.) What do I do about an attorney that is pressuring me to destroy evidence?
3.) I really feel like I was threatened with retaliation if I press charges against his client. How should I handle that?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
I broke up with an ex-gf over a year ago. Since then she has been contacting people that I know with the intent to turn them against me. She has claimed that I threatened to kill her brother, that I ripped her off etc etc. I have had people contact me telling me she was contacting them via online.
I was also told by a 3rd party that my ex had several conversations about me. In one of them, my ex expressed a desire for me to die violently.
I collected a lot of information and I even went as far to contact law enforcement in three different states since she and I live in two different places. I even spoke with a prosecutor. Each official was in agreement that she has was harassing and stalking me. The prosecutor told me that if this case had been in their jurisdiction they would prosecute. One of the detectives told me to secure and save all forms of communication between us because it would be relevant to any future criminal case.
At the time I had no wish to press charges because I had a hope that she would tire of it and stop. I really did not wish to have her arrested even though I was repeatedly told that there was enough grounds to make an arrest.
About two months ago I found out that my ex had made a posting on a consumer website about me. She posted my name, my cell phone number, what she thought was my home address, my email, and she wrote a paragraph falsely accusing me of all kinds of crimes. She tried to create the false impression that I was only someone that she knew over the phone and through email. This is very false. She said she was writing it as a warning to others about me. I found out about all of this because I started receiving phone calls from people I did not know about it.
After seeing her entry on this website I showed it to several of my friends to ask for advice on what to do about it. I even called my local police department and they were concerned for my safety since she had posted so much personal information about me. I was encouraged to make a criminal complaint.
One of my friends decided to post a rebuttal to her accusations. He made an itemized list of how she has been attacking, harassing, and defaming me. When she made her original posting she did it anonymously so my friend posted her full name. It directly rebutted every false accusation she made.
When reading her original posting it became clear that she falsely tried to create the impression that she and I had never met face to face. That lead my friend to make another rebuttal posting in which he itemized by date every single time we spent time together, including where we stayed, what we did, and whether or not we had sex. The intent of the post was to show she lied in her original posting that it was a “phone/email relationship”.
A month ago I get this email from a lawyer in North Carolina (neither of us live there) that 1.) I cease and desist from making any further comments about his client. 2.) That I destroy evidence that a detective previously told me was related to her criminal conduct. 3.) That they could sue me for defamation and invasion of privacy.
Apparently this attorney believes that my friend discussing her sex life with me is far worse than her advocating my being murdered in cold blood and harassing and stalking me.
I sent this attorney an email outlining his client’s criminal conduct against me and made it clear that law enforcement considers me to be a victim of a crime. I also asked him if it was his intention to pressure a victim of a crime to destroy evidence. I have never gotten a reply to my email. I did speak to him on the phone and I repeated that I have the right to bring a criminal complaint against his client. His response made me feel like I was being threatened with retaliation if I took that route.
Now to my questions:
1.) How seriously should I take their threat to file a defamation lawsuit? Everything that was written by my friend was in response to her initial post falsely accusing me of crimes and posting all my personal information.
2.) What do I do about an attorney that is pressuring me to destroy evidence?
3.) I really feel like I was threatened with retaliation if I press charges against his client. How should I handle that?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
