Sophie1236
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Indiana
A rumor started in high school that I suck dicks,
It floated into every job I've had since then as if its my trademark. I've been in the same career for 25 years, even moved to another state. Anyone can ask where I work and perhaps they know of someone there that the word is spread, and once there its easy to find someone else to spread it to...not sure where the momentum is. My husband of 20 years and I have never even engaged in that.
It is in my place of work now--I am harassed by one of my coworkers who knows and has been trying to get me fired and refuses to work with me. He has been going around talking about it to others. The other people in my department had stopped interacting with me. He doesn't openly harass me, only behind my back on a regular basis, but occasionally had some bad things to say directly, and refuses to go to lunch trying to separate the department from me.. to get the coworkers to not talk to me.
My husband is living in another state for 2 years on job relocation--and I fell into a relationship with A different coworker in another dept., who acted like he wanted to get involved with me and I fell for it, supposedly took some hidden pics of me forced me into doing that same activity and now the other guy is spreading this information around work that I did this same sexual act and cheated on my husband--and telling of specifics of what we did.
There is so much gossip when I'm not around, and I feel like I need to just leave.
Do I have any case at all? I am 45 years old, long out of high school, married for 20 years with my husband for 22. Yes, I cheated and there was some consensual oral sex going on. I do not talk or openly admit to anything. Have not been addressed directly about anything and not seen any pics, all side gossip I've overheard. I feel like I've been tricked and messed with, the slander of my reputation was there before this other event occurred.
I have the choice of leaving this workplace and going back to live with my spouse, and feel it is my only option to control the gossip stirred up by both the affair guy who has sent texts to his friend about everything we did, who then sent them to 4 others at the company... and the bully in my dept. who cant keep his mouth shut.
The affair guy is keeping himself hidden and just stirring things up for me. Nobody knows its him and yet they all know what I'm up to.
Any thoughts? I am emotionally drained.
A rumor started in high school that I suck dicks,
It floated into every job I've had since then as if its my trademark. I've been in the same career for 25 years, even moved to another state. Anyone can ask where I work and perhaps they know of someone there that the word is spread, and once there its easy to find someone else to spread it to...not sure where the momentum is. My husband of 20 years and I have never even engaged in that.
It is in my place of work now--I am harassed by one of my coworkers who knows and has been trying to get me fired and refuses to work with me. He has been going around talking about it to others. The other people in my department had stopped interacting with me. He doesn't openly harass me, only behind my back on a regular basis, but occasionally had some bad things to say directly, and refuses to go to lunch trying to separate the department from me.. to get the coworkers to not talk to me.
My husband is living in another state for 2 years on job relocation--and I fell into a relationship with A different coworker in another dept., who acted like he wanted to get involved with me and I fell for it, supposedly took some hidden pics of me forced me into doing that same activity and now the other guy is spreading this information around work that I did this same sexual act and cheated on my husband--and telling of specifics of what we did.
There is so much gossip when I'm not around, and I feel like I need to just leave.
Do I have any case at all? I am 45 years old, long out of high school, married for 20 years with my husband for 22. Yes, I cheated and there was some consensual oral sex going on. I do not talk or openly admit to anything. Have not been addressed directly about anything and not seen any pics, all side gossip I've overheard. I feel like I've been tricked and messed with, the slander of my reputation was there before this other event occurred.
I have the choice of leaving this workplace and going back to live with my spouse, and feel it is my only option to control the gossip stirred up by both the affair guy who has sent texts to his friend about everything we did, who then sent them to 4 others at the company... and the bully in my dept. who cant keep his mouth shut.
The affair guy is keeping himself hidden and just stirring things up for me. Nobody knows its him and yet they all know what I'm up to.
Any thoughts? I am emotionally drained.
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